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They love you, you love them, and quite frankly, you’re growing the teeniest bit tired of being entwined in the tiring dance of hauling your belongings between their place and yours every weekend.. so kapow! It’s decided! You’re moving in together!
Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS! What an exciting time! But secondly (and now, I don’t want to sound like The Fun Police here and all, because nobody likes them!), but to protect the beauty of your wonderful relationship, it may be necessary to roll out the red carpet of all rules so that your time together can continue to be blissful and delightful, and not so much “uh, I’m going to KILL you”.
Here’s how to move in with your boyfriend (or girlfriend) and not kill them
Get comfortable with compromise
For a fairly small word, it sure packs a LOT of power, and it’ll quickly become your new best friend when you’re on the verge of pulling your hair out because you’d really fantasized about having a modern, romantic-style décor` in your new digs and he’s already decked out the place with an African safari theme!
Decide who pays for what and when
Will one person cover the amount of the rent each week, while the other takes care of the bills and the grocery shopping, or will you split the cost of everything?
Establishing some financial ground rules BEFORE cohabitating will avoid the likelihood of squabbling over money later, which rarely spells anything other than bo-ring and and also, di-sas-ter!
Have a basic understanding on each other’s needs
Who needs the bathroom first in the morning? What foods makes your stomach churn? And, well, now that you’ve mentioned it, who will be doing the cooking each night?!
While these may sound like obvious guidelines, it’s important to have a basic understanding of each other’s needs to ensure that you don’t have a ‘’what? But how was I supposed to know that it wasn’t a good idea to bring my friend Mark home at 3am to play loud music when you have to be up for work at 6am?!’’ scenario on your hands further down the track!
Respect each other’s space
There will be times when it will seem that no matter how much you wriggle in to snuggle with each other on the couch, you’re still too far apart. And there are others when it will seem that even spending time in a separate room from each other seems much, much too close! The solution?
Learning when a healthy dose of time-out is required! (After all, do you remember that episode of Sex & The City where Carrie first moves in with Aidan, and laments to Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha in the coffee shop that every single time she comes home he’s ‘’all up in her face’’ exclaiming “How was your day? Who did you see? What did you do? Who do you know?’’, and that, well, she was growing ever-so tired of it? Yeah. Not-so-great.)
Respecting each other’s space is all a part of maintaining the ebb and flow of a magnificent relationship, so learn when it’s time to give one another a bit of it!
Have you ever moved in with a loved one? What were/are your saving graces?