Do you have a mentor? A kind, capable, incredibly smart human who’s a bit further along and can guide you in the direction you want to go?
Despite my best efforts, I don’t have a mentor. I mean, I know tons to incredible humans but I haven’t quite met anyone IRL who can guide both my personal and professional lives. Also: I think them mentors I want are either a) too busy b) fictional.
As crazy as it sounds, I’ve found a lot of comfort and guidance in these 100% imaginary, totally one-sided ‘relationships.’ When I’m feeling adrift or not sure of which decision to make, I think about these women. I consider the choices they’ve made and I true my wheels accordingly.
Questions to ‘ask’ your imaginary mentor
- How did you get where you are now?
- How do you balance creativity, productivity, and money-making?
- What does your life outside of work look like?
- When do you know you’re ready to ‘level up’?
- How do I do this hard thing?
And where do you find your answers?
- In books these people have written
- In their interviews
- On their social media
- WITHIN YOURSELF DUDE
So who are my imaginary mentors?
I imagine that if she were my mentor and I tried to talk to her about a project “not working with my brand” she’d roll her eyes and tell me that if it made me happy to create a cat/literary calendar, I should just go ahead and do it already.
She’s a great writer with impressive press mentions, but really? I’m amazed by how she’s managed to work with Big Deal Sponsors in a way that feels genuine and raises money for tons of great causes.
I realize that Yes and Yes is sort of an anomaly in terms of content and business model, so I’m always intrigued by other bloggers who are working a-bit-outside-the-box. In my mentoring fantasy, I’d be all “Maggie, I was thinking of partnering with this cool company and charging them $30.”
And then she’d tell me that was foolishness, tell me how much I should be charging, and give me a pep talk while I rewrote my pitch.
We all love Ellen, right? Gosh, but she’s wonderful. What could she teach me? I want to know more about treading the line between smart and funny, thought-provoking and kind, interesting and fun.
How do you engage people and talk to anyone about anything? How do you secretly dance behind people without them noticing? Also: what’s the secret to true love?
Is Leslie Knope real? Nope. I care not. Leslie is incredibly smart and driven, optimistic, and super loyal. She organizes amazing events, achieved her lifelong dream of being elected to city council, and bettered the lives of everyone around her. She loves her friends and the not-that-objectively-awesome town she grew up in.
If Leslie were an actual human being, I’d want to know how she manages to get so much done and how she manages to maintain good friendships with so many straight dudes.
Also: how does she get her hair to look so good?
Who are your imaginary (or real) mentors? What do you wish they’d give you advice about?