How To Deal When People Disappoint You

What do you do when people disappoint you? How do you cope with disappointment? You don't have to hate them, you can just change your own expectations and behavior! Click through to find out how >>
How do you deal when people disappoint you?

When I was little, I remember thinking that “disappointing people” is something you outgrow. I’d only ever heard someone say “I’m disappointed in you” in childhood punishments. I thoughtBring a grownup is going to be so easy! Nobody’s in charge of you, you get to do what you want all the time and the only people you have to worry about are your friends! And they’re awesome!”

But here’s the thing:

There are plenty of things to worry about in Grownupland (obviously) and one of those are the relationships you have. Relationships of any sort are tricky. Professional relationships, romantic relationships, friendships – they can all be tough.

And eventually, you’re probably bound to meet a few bad apples. Colleagues won’t finish their part of a project. Friends will share that thing you swore them to secrecy on. Romantic interests might cheat or share those saucy photos or say mean things about you after you break up with them.

How do you deal when someone disappoints you or generally acts like a Grade-A Jerk?

When someone has behaved in an eye-rolling or tear-inducing way I say to myself:

'You've shown me who you are. I will adjust my expectations + behavior accordingly.' Click To Tweet

(my internal monologue is much more calm and articulate than my external dialogues.)

What does this mean?

If you cheat on your girlfriend I don’t hate you, but I’m not going to date you.

If you’re consistently late and unreliable I don’t hate you, but I’m not going to refer my clients to you.

If you’re negative and emotionally volatile I don’t hate you, but I’m not going to call you for emotional support.

If you’re unstable when you drink I don’t hate you, but I’m not going to be around you when there’s alcohol involved.

We’re all flawed human beings. I gossip too much. I can be judgmental. I will totally use your shampoo and conditioner when I stay at your house. And we’d all be friendless if we reserved the slots in our social calendar for perfect people.

When someone behaves poorly, you don’t need to hate them with a fiery passion for the rest of your life. You also don’t have to pretend it never happened.

You can protect yourself.

You can opt out of those aspects of that person that are crazy-making.

You get to choose the people you surround yourself with and how you interact with them.

It’s totally, 100% up to you.

How do you deal when someone disappoints you – repeatedly?

P.S. If you need 1-on-1 support or help dealing with disappointing humans, I do that!

Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash

Welcome to Yes & Yes!

Want to spend your time, money, and energy on purpose? I'll show you how.

You might also like…

How To Stop Researching + Start Taking Action

How To Stop Researching + Start Taking Action

I can see the tiny ‘like’ notifications piling up under the comment on my Instagram post. 12, 13, 14 likes. And honestly? I get it. Because the comment is so, so relatable. Who among us hasn’t done this? Who hasn’t spent weeks or months researching:  How to launch...

read more


  1. Amber-Rose Thomas

    Thank you, I really needed this post today. Sometimes our friends do disappoint us – but that doesn't make them an all round bad person. I'm not sure if that was the message her but it was oddly reassuring.

    How do I deal with serial disappointers? I become increasingly busy.

  2. Kaisa

    With friends who have some flaws (like we all do), but are overall wonderful people I try to keep that in mind. And not expect someone who cannot cook to prepare a dinner (even if they volunteer). To give a hypothetical simplistic example. So this way there would be less disappointments and confusion. But all in all I try to talk through all disappointments and explain where I am coming from and where we stand. And in a long run if things don't work out then I try to cut those people off my life. Not always so easy, but then again – not impossible.

  3. Shannon Butler

    This has been eye-opening in that I just realized I can opt out of aspects of a person instead of the entire person. Whaaaaaaat. This changes everything.

    • Sasha

      I totally agree with you. This post is aspiring.

  4. Kaitlin Marie

    This a great post! It definitely took me a LONG TIME to sort of…compartmentalize my friendships with people, ie: taking a grain of salt when making plans with a flaky friend, only opting in to low-key hangouts with the wild partier, and making particularly finite plans with people I can only handle in small doses. It's a great way to keep the friends you have and make the relationships easier to deal with, even if they get difficult.

    P.S. I am SO GUILTY of using friends' shampoo and soap when I crash at their houses!

    • April in Autumn

      It's one of the joys of traveling. And I totally expect people to do it to me.

    • Andrew @ Project Fellowship

      We are so on the same page there, Kaitlin. If a friend is always late then I won't invite them to see a movie with my other friends. If unreliable and flaky then I'm not going to rely on them to bring the extension cord to the party or to provide all the meat for a large barbecue if they offer it. There are some other things I do to. One of these is to neutralize a friends unpleasant side. I had a friend who was very uptight in a number of different situations. If we went to see a movie I made sure we saw one that he was looking forward to or that HE thought must be good. If you took him to see a bad movie that you had chosen he could be overly critical about it in an unpleasant way.

    • Leah

      Wait, you’re not supposed to use the available shampoo/body wash? I can understand perhaps not sharing bar soap (I lather my hand up and use that to wash my body), but liquid stuff? I think I missed that adult “memo.”

  5. Anonymous

    I've unfortunately dealt a lot with both friends and partners who are emotionally volatile and negative. In such cases, I withdraw or detach from emotional involvement, but the result is predictably an accusation that I either don't love them enough or I am not a good friend. Fortunately, I can recognize when I'm being manipulated. I'm starting to wonder why I pick these people and them me… It's not straightforward at all. I like your advice, though. It is helpful to know that we all can protect ourselves and not get drawn in to someone else's drama.

  6. Tiffany

    This has been an apt post. I was just sharing with a friend about a free market event that's held at the Eurasian Association. The event is about sharing and countering capitalism in a non-reactionary way. And she replied, "so only poor Eurasian people can go?" ARGH!!! But it's ok, I will take your advise and never ask her to another indie event ever. Only mainstream dinners with mainstream friends to mainstream places. No more opening her mind or challenging her world view. Nopes. It's ok.

    The friend's not a bad person and she's been there for me but not everyone lives my lifestyle or wants to be challenged out of theirs. Thank you Sarah. I think this saves me a lot of grief.

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      It really, really will! And I'm sure she brings things to the proverbial table that other friends don't 🙂

  7. Ashe

    "I gossip too much. I can be judgemental. I will totally use your shampoo and conditioner when I stay at your house."

    OH LADY. I do the same things. I don't know if this means we'd be best friends who enabled each others bad habits or if we'd hate each other because we hated those attributes about ourselves.

    (Frankly, I'd hope the former.)

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      We would be BFFs with no shampoo or conditioner left 😉

  8. shalimar-98

    "I gossip too much. I can be judgemental. I will totally use your shampoo and conditioner when I stay at your house."

    You mean there are people who expect houseguests WON'T use their shampoo and conditioner? I usually have 2 or 3 open bottles at a time and if there's something I don't want to share I will take that out of the bathroom. But in general if your friend enough that you're staying over I'll share just about everything.

    Other than that the post is a great reminder. One of my guys asked me to do something 48 hours in advance. I reminded him that due to his flakiness I won't make plans with him more than 3 hours in advance, hurt to much to arrange my day around him then get flaked on. He knows this is his biggest flaw and we're working on work arounds/fixes but for now we know the rule.

    • Erika @

      I love your response to this!

      While I don't like the word flaky, I am more… spontaneous and intuitive by nature and I don't like planning things too far in advance, especially social events. I might be feeling differently the day of and honestly, I like more organic hangout time (even though most grownupland schedules don't permit for that). ANYWAY! My friends always want to know like a week or so in advance but… ah, it's like, I DON'T KNOW! Haha. So, I like that you have accepted who he is and have come up with an arrangement that works. If you are free in those three hours and feel like hanging out, then sweet. If not, you move on. And then no one's feelings are hurt. 🙂

      • Leah

        One of my best friends is this way. She’s a “time optimist” and often has too much going on. I am a scheduler. The only time I reliably pinned her down was to stand up for me in my wedding. But I love it when we do hang out, so I just acknowledge that it won’t be that often. She is there for me when I truly need her, and she is awesome, so life goes on.

      • KIM

        I think people that won’t schedule with you and leave things to the last minute oare potentially someone that’s always looking for a better option. And that can be hurtful to the people that they’re leaving hanging. By not committing to whatever activity they ask you to do you’re basically saying I’m keeping my options open for something more interesting or exciting.

  9. alwayssierra

    I was just having a conversation with my brother about this the other day. We agreed that most of the times when we get frustrated with others, it's because we expect them to act a certain way even though we know from example that that's not who they are.

    Thats why I love this part:

    When someone has behaved in an eye-rolling or tear-inducing way I say to myself:
    "You've shown me the type of person you are and I will adjust my expectations and behavior accordingly."
    (my internal monologue is much more calm and articulate than my external dialogues.)

    I think it's just as important to adjust expectations and behavior for the ones we love as well, and not just for the bad apples. For example, you might have a friend who makes a great traveling partner but hates to plan the trips. That doesn't mean you can't travel together, but it does mean that you have to adjust your own expectations and behaviors and be willing to take on the responsibility of planning the traveling if you still would like to travel with that person. If you make that conscious choice from the beginning, you never get to that point of frustration or resentment.

  10. Anonymous

    I tend to be the type of person who is exceptionally loyal up to a point and then once you've let me down that "one last time" I basically cut you out of my life. This may not be the healthiest approach but for me, if you let me down repeatedly then you aren't worth my time, so I stop. That only applies for personal relationships.

    • Anonymous

      I tend to do this as well, but I try to only reserve cutting people out when their behavior is really so frustrating and disappointing that I finally can't just choose to like certain parts about them anymore. It's a bummer, but it seems healthier than holding onto people who you find it difficult to like anymore.

      • Anonymous

        Deep sixed the person who I desperately wanted to be my best friend…35 years waiting.

    • Girliest Nerd

      Yep, I do this too. There is definitely a line that people will cross and they need to go; however, I love the message of this post. Keep the flawed people around if you're still getting a mutually beneficial aspect out of it. Remember, you have flaws too that I'm sure someone, somewhere is putting up with to some extent!

    • Lily

      Me too. I can be very loyal to one person. But if he or she lets me down once or twice, I would just cut that person out of my life, physically or emotionally. Later I found that it’s too much. Because nobody is perfect. Just cuting that aspect out of that person.

  11. Anonymous

    Oh, man. I'm dealing with a friend that I just can't seem to get together with. This has been happening for a long time. I keep extending invites, and many times don't hear back from her. The thing is, I KNOW she's busy. She really does have a lot on her plate(including an upcoming wedding), which is why I feel jerky about thinking these thoughts- but it's been happening for a long time. And I know it will continue as she starts a new job in September.

    I said I'd go to her wedding, but I'm starting to regret it. Cost is a factor, but I'm feeling resentful of the situation, and feeling bad for being resentful. She's a close friend and I love her dearly, but I just don't know how to bring this up to her.

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      I'm sorry, dude. That totally sucks – especially when you know there are 'legitimate' reasons for her flakiness.

      For what it's worth, when I have a friend who's really flaky, I don't really invite them to do things one on one because they just disappoint me. I include them in group invites and if they actually show up, I view it as a pleasant surprise 😉

    • Anonymous

      Yeah, that's a good idea. Now I have to think of a possible graceful way to bow out of the wedding. Blergh.

    • Barbara

      Not attending the wedding of a close friend whom you love dearly because of cost is one thing; and not attending due to resentment is quite another.

      One quote that helped me is "Seek first to understand, then to be understood" – thank you, Stephen Covey. You could ask your friend about the kind of contact that will work with her, through her wedding and the " starting the new job " period. Thinking about the big picture : can you let resentment go?…accept a gap in contact time?….find a "win-win" solution such as Sarah suggested, etc.? Good friends are worth the effort of forbearance (to a point, of course) and discussing "what will work".

  12. Secret Squirrel

    Thanks for this Sarah. Lots of people are referring to friends and partners, but this is useful for me in relation to a colleague and a recent major disappointment. I am tattooing your internal monologue to my eyelids now….

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      It's helpful for just about every situation! I should probably write it on my arm….

  13. Hope Johnson

    What a useful post! And some of the comments were like whoa as well. Love the picture as well! Thank you for the useful read.

  14. Dr Anne Fawcett

    Slightly peripheral but if you DO end up with a guinea pig (and I always recommend two…they are herd animals and need company) you can make him or her a salad! Woot!

    On the topic though, my mum gave me the best advice when I started high school. I came home all disappointed because there were some d-heads, and I really thought I'd left them in primary school. "No," says mum. "There are d-heads in high school, there will be d-heads at University and you will work with d-heads sometimes. D-heads are everywhere." So the question is, if you can't live without them, how do you live with them?

    • m  e  l  i  g  r  o  s  a

      moms have the best wise words, and they get better (or our ears actually listen…) as we get older 🙂

  15. Rachael

    I have a small handful of exceptionally flaky friends (and brother) and years of disappointment has taught me to never rely on them in a pinch, nor plan anything one on one with them. It's sad and has put a definite gap in our friendship, but I'm no longer willing to put myself on the line for such irresponsible behavior.

    I always use peoples shampoos and conditioners – I hope my guests will do the same! 😀

  16. Anna

    When someone disappoints me repeatedly, I tolerate whatever flaws he/she has. Just like what you posted, I try to tune out or not focus on that aspect. It does seem tiring at times but I try. I've had this friend who kept on lying to me and I kept forgiving her until that one time she lied and I felt it was just one time too many so I decided to cut the friendship. It's not something I liked doing but when too much is enough, I need to step back and think of myself this time around.

  17. Elise

    This is such a great way to look at disappointing situations of any sort.

    I've had friends disappoint me & I used to get really pissed about it, but at the end of the day you're right we're all human, all flawed, sometimes we're gonna screw up – several times in a row – it's just about opting out & changing behaviour/expectations accordingly.

    Thank you so much Sarah 🙂

  18. Ebony

    I'm a serial later-runner and I'm sure my bosses have probably installed the same motto in their book of 'dealing with Ebony'. Luckily, when I'm there I give 110% and it shows in my customer feedback.
    I love this post girl, we all need reminding every now and then what it means to be human.

  19. Amanda

    Very, very wise post. When someone disappoints or hurts me, I also remind myself that what other people do is about them, not me – an idea I picked up from a wonderful book called The Four Agreements (have you read it?). So if someone is a jerk-face… they aren't trying to be an asshole, they didn't set out to hurt you or be inconsiderate or unfair, they're just acting out their own drama. That doesn't make the hurt go away but it can help me lessen it, sometimes.

    P.S. Your shampoo line made me smile – like many of the other commenters, I do the same thing 😉

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      I haven't read The Four Agreements – but sooooo many people whose opinion I value have recommended it.

      I'm glad to hear so many other people use their friends' shampoo and conditioner – I expect people to use mine!

  20. Hannah

    I actually had the opposite problem, recently. I've never had an issue with opting out of certain behaviors that my friends display, but I had a very close friend for the past few years who just kept disappointing me in so many ways with regards to how they treated our friendship. For the longest time I tried avoiding the situations where I'd get disappointed, but they ended up outweighing the good times, so to speak, and just about a month ago I allowed myself to do something I hadn't with that person, which was just stop talking to them. And it was amazing! Occasionally I miss them, of course, and I haven't made any "official" cutting of ties, but for the first time I feel completely okay with letting go of this person and not having them as a constant presence in my life. I think people tend to let the fear of losing a friendship outweigh their own happiness and comfort at times—or at least, I do! So your advice is great, for the people who keep finding themselves in painful, disappointing situations with friends.

    By the way, I always love your posts about friendship! 🙂 You have a lovely kind of clarity and eloquence when it comes to discussing the harder aspects of friendship, like "breaking up" and knowing when and how to communicate with the people you're close to.

    • Anonymous

      I really like this HANNAH. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and let them GO.

  21. Sheila O'Shea

    Captain Awkward pointed me to this post and it's just what I needed to read in light of recent events in my life.

    This is something I already tend to do with people I'm just getting to know–the harder part (and one I'm still learning) is how to adjust your expectations of someone you've known a long time. There can be a tendency to see that person through the light of all the Good Times You Shared in the past and that makes it harder to admit to yourself that things have changed between you. (Things will always change between people, because people are supposed to grow and change. What they change into depends, in part, on how you react to those changes.)

  22. Story Teller

    I think this is great advice. I've personally been cut out of two friends' lives and I've done the same to others over (looking back) relatively minor incidents. I think we're more apt to have these knee-jerk reactions when we're young (at least I hope so). But the people who cut me out of their lives were doing me a favour. They weren't good friends, and I can see that now. (I could see that then, but I was in denial.) I think we should treat friends more like family–flawed people who we love. For some reason, we place these huge expectations on friends to be perfect and fulfill every need for us.

    But if someone cuts you out of their life because you're going through a busy time and can't see them on a weekly basis, I think they're not worth trying to salvage.

    Great post!

  23. Malvina

    "You've shown me the type of person you are and I will adjust my expectations and behavior accordingly." When faced with really huge disappointments this phrase is the closest I can get to that golden goal of Forgiveness. It lets me continue to co-exist with the person and let go of the anger while clearly not pretending that the harm didn't happen. In some cases I decide that sort of person just isn't the sort of person I want really close to me. Sometimes with close friends I'll take the time to gently point out the issue around the time that I start adjusting my expectations to match their behavior. We all have our flaws and/or no-so-proud moments and can learn from them. And, heck, once or twice my expectations needed some adjusting too (the horror!).

  24. Luvdart520

    This is such excellent advice. Unfortunately, I don't deal well when people disappoint me. I show little tolerance and automatically separate myself from them till the friendship is long over. I don't think Im perfect in anyway. I simply struggle with the disappointment and in order to avoid it I only give my time to my loved ones. When they disappoint me it hurts but I can deal much better because I love them.

  25. Liz

    I really, really like this! Xx

  26. Anonymous

    Going through dissapoint with the mojority of my so called 'friends'…..I always support them, listen & am the one they lean on, but it seems the time I need them, no one is there???
    They know somethings going on, but the next time they communicate, its as if nothing happened? Done being a doormat — this is when I walk away. Better to be alone, then with 'friends' who can only think of themselves.

    • Anonymous

      Totally agree.

  27. Anonymous

    Funny, no one defends those who have been labeled "disappointments". Its not merely about adjusting your expectations but also realizing that not everyone is like you and acceptance is key. No two people will always see eye to eye on anything! So what you see as a "disappointment" in someone, others have no problem with, and can be genuinely empathetic (whatever the case may be). In other words, it's all subjective! Has anyone really stopped to think about what it does to people when you go about merely "tolerating" them? Or openly calling them a disappointment? Or openly disapproving of the choices they have made? No! Sounds quite manipulative and convenient to me. When I do something your way, I'm good, we're even better and then the minute I don't, I'm a disappointment? How is that even possible??? It's this opinion and behavior why there are many people battling with self-esteem and self -acceptance issues and the biggest of all, depression! View the other perspective sometimes, everything is not always about you and your needs/wants…

    • Anonymous

      When I invite someone to a social event, then they change their mind at the last minute because they want to stay in and watch a television programme, I don't think they're "not doing things my way", I think they're being rude and inconsiderate.

      When someone agrees to give me a lift to a social event then pulls out at the last moment because they had to go to work that day and are an "ickle bit tired" (they must have forgotten about what they do 9 – 5 every day when they offered me this ride), resulting in me having to be late and someone with crippling social anxiety who'd really braced themselves and worked hard on preparing themselves to come out that night having to leave early because they had a panic attack when no-one else was at the pub when they arrived first – the person offering me a lift isn't "not doing things my way," – they are being rude and inconsiderate, and adding insult to injury when they dare to tell me that the fact someone felt they had to go home early was my responsibility.

    • Sarah Von Bargen

      I see where you're coming from. I also think there are certain behaviors we can all acknowledge are unacceptable and inconsiderate: lying, going back on important commitments, etc.

      I'm not encouraging readers to 'tolerate' people (if you feel you're 'tolerating' someone, you shouldn't be spending time with them. It rude and unkind to everyone involved) and I think it's the rare occasion that calls for openly calling someone a disappointment – something I never suggested in this piece.

    • Anonymous

      you should have your own transport & not expect friends to taxi you around.

    • Anonymous

      Its not about seeing the other side but its about how many times can someone get hurt from others not thinking of u or just not listening cuz they are aready right or their suggesting the only option. Sometimes people just need to listen more. We have 2 ears and 1 mouth, we should be listening twice as much and might get hurt half the time. My little 2 cents. Thanks

  28. Anonymous

    I recently had to end a "friendship" it ended badly and I beat myself up for a month over it, so much drama, using, backstabbing, I just kept making excuses to myself, she didnt mean it, or she's just tired or had a bad day, it was an old friendship, high school, and I'm in my I 50's, it sucked, I'm not perfect by any means, I'm a loner, but a giver and extremely loyal, I finally had to face that I was just being used, most of the time, there were too many negatives to continue, and for some wierd reason my husband and I are getting along so much better since we stopped,,

  29. Anonymous

    What about when this is your family? Say, for instance – your mother and father and brother and sisters? For some reason, I am always shocked when they disappoint me, even though this happens consistently. It's like I truly believe they won't do it again. But, they do. It makes me feel so alone in the world, to have a family who don't act like the way I feel family should. It makes me feel incredibly alone.

    • Lily

      I so hear you about family. I am an only child, and finally,@49 years old, put much distance between myself and my parents. They are incredibly self centered, judgemental and controlling. I feel very lonely in that “i dont have a real family” kind of way.On the other hand, the inner peace i have gained by, really honoring and valuing myself is enjoyable and fun! It’s a trade off 🙂

  30. anonymous

    Perhaps you can extend grace to them since we are all human and make mistakes

  31. George

    Great advice. Things like these can come from where least expected and can be a shock.

    I am a very deep person and those I hold dear I hold them very close, to the point of idealizing and blindly trusting.

    Recently I went with some friends to a party. Boys and Girls. Great people, discreet, honest, trustful and responsible… Or so I thought.
    A couple of them just did something I couldn't ever have expected by engageing in the act lustfully, but in a way that they gave a show to 30 people and risking to pregnancy absolutely. Quite sad actually.
    Another friend (girl) just abandoned us with a guy he didn't know.
    Some say this is bound to happen but I never thought that my group of friends would be the one with the worst behiavor!

    It has been quite terrible for me despite being a 3rd party. Seeing people mocking them, their reputation and the risks that they carried.
    I am like a father to my friends.
    Sure the excuse is always having a few too many drinks, but damnit; even at 20 I thought we'd be more responsible.

    I had a hard time readjusting my ideas. My worries weren't that mutual by them and I got just a sort of pat in the back and a dry "thanks for the worries" by him. We haven't had a serious face to face conversation about it, but through messaging I gould get to some pinpoint topics.

    Things continue as if nothing had happened. But I cannot oversee this.

    Neverthless this brought me to strengthen the bonds with some friends of my hometown, with whom I had slight contact as routine kept us apart. We have a small project for Mardi Gras. So good!
    One of them is a very wise guy and we had a great conversation on a walk at night, so purifying.

    My other friends from the town. One a childhood one has grown quite apart and they are just going to drink that day, and I was told the plans in a way of not being invited so… diss them. Alcohol has done too much in by life, even if indirectly (here teetotaller almost)

    A couple of weeks before the event of disappointment, my grandma told me to never trust anyone, just after a visit to that very same friend. Well, she was right.

    After all as my wise friend said; Just be at peace and equilibrium with yourself. Everything else will settle to its place, but only your equilibrium is the essential part. Since that advice all has been better

  32. purejoy

    I have someone who lets me down and it ends up costing me huge amounts of money. He offers to do something, I go ahead as if he means what he says, then he starts changing the game plan and leaves me waiting to find out how we will proceed. I have other decisions with deadlines to make that hing on what we end up doing
    after we've agreed and I'v already spent the money needed to proceed. This is a family member. Do you say something or just make my own plans and cut my losses. In the past, he is resistant to what I say or makes excuses.

  33. purejoy

    I have someone who lets me down and it ends up costing me huge amounts of money. He offers to do something, I go ahead as if he means what he says, then he starts changing the game plan and leaves me waiting to find out how we will proceed. I have other decisions with deadlines to make that hing on what we end up doing
    after we've agreed and I'v already spent the money needed to proceed. This is a family member. Do you say something or just make my own plans and cut my losses. In the past, he is resistant to what I say or makes excuses.

  34. Anonymous

    Thank you for this post and your sound advice! I have been repeatedly disappointed and hurt by someone close to me. Our lives are so intertwined I couldn't cut her out, so I have been trying to find a way to protect myself and move forward. Trouble is, I wear my heart on my sleeve and it's obvious when I am upset with her. When I try to address an issue, it becomes a nightmare bc she apologizes profusely, tries to make a joke and/or brings it up incessantly. I just wish that instead of always having to apologize, she could just be considerate in the first place. But alas, that is her behavior not mine. I would love to repost your internal monologue quote on my Facebook page – would that be possible? I may benefit from tattooing it on my arm as a constant reminder! Lol!

  35. Belle

    At the moment I feel like *all* of my friends are disappointing me, which points to the common dominator.. me.

    Am I expecting too much from people?

  36. Veronica Marie Lewis-Shaw

    I learned, sadly, at an early age to adjust my expectations where certain other people were involved. Ironically however, I forgot this as I moved into adulthood and for some time suffered the occasional disappointment. So, I am learning again, to adjust my expectations to the realities of the “grownup” world. As a result, I do have a few, shall we say “flaky friends”? But I do love them dearly and would much rather make that little extra effort to avoid certain situations than to lose them from my life.

    Thank you so much for these reminders.

    Oh, and if you’re ever in the Boston area, I have a friend there who has the most AMAZING shampoo and conditioner! And her body wash is practically orgasmic!


Pin It on Pinterest