What’d you get up to this week, friends? I mean, besides reading the news and tearing your hair out? I brunched with some of my favorite self-employed ladies, was interviewed for two podcasts (I’ll let you know when they’re live!), and attended my friend’s annual .10k party. Yes, you read that correctly. POINT 10 k. So fun!
Is there a ‘right’ way to do business online? If you’ve watched a few webinars or listened to any marketing podcasts, you know the formula for a Successful Online Business by now:
Facebook ad for ‘free training’ > 1-hour webinar that includes a 20-minute pitch at the end with expiring bonuses > we all buy a self-paced online course.
I am not knocking this! I do it, too! Look at my free training that includes a pitch and expiring bonuses!
But this formula isn’t working for me, emotionally or psychologically. At least not right now. Here’s what I’m changing:
Links for you!
I try really hard to only use beauty products that aren’t tested on animals. I constantly get questions about my eyebrows and they come compliments of this $7 eyebrow pencil. No bunnies were harmed in the process!
Oooh! What a perfect summer recipe: Frozen pineapple jalapeno margaritas
An extremely mellow Netflix show that may sooth our wearied nerves.
Fascinating! An interview with a woman who helps celebrities manage their money (and a great reminder that EVERYONE suffers from the comparison trap!)
I don’t want to blame anything on the Kardashians, but the pressure to emulate that lifestyle is infectious, and some of my clients don’t realize that other celebrities are getting a lot of stuff for free. There are celebrities who get paid to be courtside at basketball games, $25,000 or $50,000 just to sit there for two hours.
And not only that, they’ll get an entire box of designer clothes shipped to their house so they can pick out what to wear, for free. It’s impossible to keep up with that, but it’s natural to want to. My clients experience the same social pressures that we all feel, in normal life, except for them it’s amplified and more public.
Related: You can choose to want less
Everyone says these are amazing. Have you tried them?
I regret to inform you that the new(ish) John Mayer music video is extremely charming.
A friend of mine owns a property in Tulum and says this happens daily! Instagram’s Wannabe-Stars Are Driving Luxury Hotels Crazy
JUST AS I SUSPECTED! Writing A Book Did Not Change My Life.
It made me proud, yes, and it made me a little bit of money (less, trust me, always less than people imagine, especially when tax season comes around), but I am still the same messy, procrastinating, nervous, usually sad person I was before I completed what had, up until that point, been my lifelong dream.
Somewhat related: Money doesn’t matter if everything else sucks
My birthday is August 29th. Babe, if you’d like to do this for my birthday, I approve!
Hope you had a lovely weekend, friends!
Are you a super laidback human who’s great at relaxing? Are your evenings and weekends filled with picnics and movies and friends and reading in a hammock?
If that’s you, stop reading this blog post. It will do you no good. Instead, read this post about what Scout Finch would be like in 2015.
But are you one of those Type A humans who runs themselves ragged? Who struggles to uncouple their productivity from their self-worth? Who fill their days (and evenings and weekends) with one million tiny tasks?
If you are this person, I’d like to introduce you to one solution to your Type A problems: the To Do For Fun list.
Quite simply, a To Do For Fun list is a list of fun things you’d like to do with your evening, your weekend, or any free time that falls into your calendar.
I realize this might sound completely counter-intuitive, but sometimes if I don’t plan to have fun … I don’t. My lazy, unstructured weekend becomes an opportunity to organize paperwork, clean the fridge, and detail the car. And then once I‘ve worn myself down, I’ll fall into a Netflix coma.
Instead, what if I made a To Do For Fun list that looked like this?
Weekend To Do For Fun list
- Sleep in
- Go to the beach + get nachos at Sandcastle
- Give myself a manicure
- Make sweet corn ice cream
Even if I don’t do any of those things (which is fine, since it’s a To Do For Fun list!), I’ve taken five minutes to remind myself that this time is set aside for fun and relaxation. This time is not for never-ending chores, meeting other people’s deadlines, or putting everyone else’s needs before my own.
What does it mean to reinvent yourself and your life at 50? I know sooooo many people who feel trapped in their lives or career and they’re not even 35! I LOVED this interview Judy and I think you will, too.