True Story: I Went Back To University At 51

If you dropped out of college, would you have the gumption and tenacity to go back? At 51? And take classes alongside your child?! One man shares his story >> yesandyes.org
Laurie and his daughter Beth
This is the story Laurie and how he returned to college as an adult.
Tell us a bit about yourself! 
I’m Laurie, 61, and I come from the suburbs of Sydney, Australia. Despite the reputation Australians have, I am not very keen on sports, except sailing, which I love. I have a 16’ trailer-sailer, not to race but just to cruise. Apart from that I like reading and doing cryptic crossword puzzles – all the really cool things!
What did you spend your 30s and 40s doing?
After I left high school I started a humanities degree at Sydney University, but dropped out after a couple of years. I then trained as an auto mechanic and in my early thirties I retrained as a mechanical engineer. So my 30s and 40s were spent living in suburbia, bringing up a family – I have two children – and working as an engineer.
What made you decide to go back to school and change careers?
At first, engineering was very challenging and I got a lot out of it, but as the years went by it became less interesting to me. I tried changing the firm I worked for a couple of times, but that didn’t really work. Also, the area of industry where I had most experience was being outsourced overseas more and more, so my opportunities were shrinking, not growing.
Eventually I decided that instead of making small sideways shifts I needed to do something completely new like finishing the humanities degree I had started thirty-odd years before. It was not really a career change, so much as reviving an old dream, while I continued to support myself by doing what I knew.
How did you juggle school/work/family?
In the first year I only did subjects which offered evening classes, but there were not many of these, so I soon had to think about taking time off work. I particularly wanted to do German, which involved three classes per week, always held during the day. So I asked my boss could I have time off during normal working hours, then work back in the evening, and he agreed. So that is how I did most of my degree.
My family were really great. My wife and children accepted my decision to go back and supported me as much as they could, but of course I often felt the pressure of conflicting expectations, especially when essays were due. I made a big calendar on a whiteboard and planned out my time for weeks ahead, so I wouldn’t get caught out, and if timing did get tight, I just gave each part of my life, including my study, the best I could.
How did the people in your life react to your decision?
I read once that when you propose making a big change in your life, people close to you will often try to dissuade you, not so much for your sake but because they don’t want to have their own lives disrupted. So when people were a bit negative at first I tried to answer their concerns but also stay committed to my overall goal. After a while people adjust to the new routine and accept the new “normal”.
My daughter, who was still at university when I went back, even came to my first lecture with me for moral support, and my wife has always been understanding about the time I need to get readings and essays done. If my family had not been supportive, I wouldn’t have made it.
How is school different this time around?
I feel much more confident now (by the way, having completed the humanities degree at Sydney, I am now in the middle of a Masters at Oxford). I don’t have all the worries about social life and getting a career that people fresh out of school do.
The first time around the Vietnam War was on and I was coping with things like being drafted. It’s more fun this time and I have more resources, like time management skills and the support of a family, to cope with the ups and downs. I often just feel very grateful that I have had the chance to go back and redo a bit of my life that didn’t work out the first time.
What is it like to attend classes with people who are 30-40 years younger than you?
It’s both challenging and fun. I find younger people are very accepting of me, and I hear lots of things about life that as a 60-something year old I would not normally hear. I try to be really sensitive about knowing when to draw back, and not fall into the trap of thinking I am “18 again”. One problem is, teachers sometimes assume you know more about their subject because you are older, which is frustrating.
What are the best parts of attending university at this age? What are the challenges?
Best Parts: Meeting new and interesting people. Reading books and engaging with ideas which you would not otherwise encounter. Travelling – I was able to go as an exchange student to Germany for six months. Graduating!!!
Challenges: Feeling out of my depth – a lot has happened since I was at high school. Getting readings done when all the ordinary things of life need to go on, such as going to work and mowing the lawn.
What advice would you give to others who are interested in going back to school or changing careers?
Feel the fear and do it anyway. But only make a change if you are genuinely interested in the new direction, don’t do it to earn more money. If you are going back to school, say to yourself “I will just commit to the first year and see how I go” – that way, you will not be overwhelmed.
Give yourself lots of positive feedback, e.g. keep a little chart showing your progress and say to yourself “I am more than a quarter of the way through now!”

Thanks so much for sharing your story, Laurie! Do you have have any questions for him?

P.S. Update on what Laurie’s doing in 2016! You’ll want to read this.

14 Comments

Catrina

I think this is great! Congrats! A woman I work with was telling me her grandpa, who is 92 years old, just started college. He said he always wanted to go and never had the chance until now. I hope to be that cool when I'm 92!

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Lisa

There were quite a few 'mature' students on my Fine Art course at uni and they fit in really well with us young lot. They made the student group more diverse, and they have better stories.

My Dad, who's recently retired, has just started a degree with the open university – so he can study from home. He's doing History which he says is the subject he should have done the first time around instead of Maths. I'm already looking forward to going to his graduation!

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Kaitlin Marie

I love this post! 🙂
My mom decided to return to college and finish her degree while I was in high school. It's tough to manage college, a job (my mom worked nights at Kohls unloading trucks in order to pay all of her tuition herself), and taking care of your family. I think watching her succeed at school (she got straight As) and juggle family stuff and work stuff on top of that made me see what an amazing role model she is. Of course, I've always thought that. But I did take to referring to her as SuperMom.

She and I celebrated with a joint-graduation party, since she finished college right when I finished high school.

It's never too late to go back to school!

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The Dame Intl

I find this so inspiring! I wish my mom could afford to go and study to be a nurse or doctor, who ultimate dream, she's 55 and if we had the funds, I'd tell her to go study it.

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Suzy

Awesome! I'm 38 and in my third semester of college. Laurie's story is very inspiring for us later in life students; although I'm glad I'm not the oldest! I've found that I am older than most of the students in class, but there are still a few my age and older pursuing the same thing.

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Janine

This was so great and inspiring. I was here thinking that 34 was too old to go back to university for a different degree. I'm glad to be proven wrong.

Good luck with your Masters, Laurie.

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Eternally WanderLyn

Congrats, Laurie! This is amazing. I am 27 and fear that I will always be wandering back into the classroom. I just love learning too much! So thanks for showing us all that you can continue to learn or change your path at any age! 😀

Lynsey | Eternally WanderLyn
http://www.wanderlyn.com

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Dogtown Vintage

Laurie, you are AWESOME!!! I turned thirty this year and always feel as if I've just missed the boat on some things because of decisions I made in my late teens and early twenties, and you prove that that simply isn't true! I think making that decision and sticking to it was incredibly brave. I bet every day is so much more fulfilling now, and you totally deserve it. I'm going to tell your story to my father-in-law; he had to leave university in the sixties when his girlfriend became pregnant and never got to go back – he's 64 now, with lots of time, and still the same passion he had then. Go you!!!

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vanessa

"Feel the fear and do it anyway."

This is such amazing advice & applicable even to a young university student. Or anyone really. &Thanks for doing this, Laurie. It was really insightful & gave me some ideas on how to support my mother if she decides to finally pursue her Masters. 🙂

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