Sunday, April 20, 2014

Web Time Wasters

The Longest Way 1.0 - walk through China and grow a beard! - TIMELAPSE from Christoph Rehage on Vimeo.

How was your week, guys? I attended my first Passover (fun!), drank wine with lady friends deep into the night, and as you read this I'm hosting Easter dinner for eight, cooking in this teeny tiny kitchen. Wish me luck!

Links for you!

I love a good subscription box. This one gives $1 from each monthly subscription to charity!

Well, this is lovely. Buy a t-shirt, send a kid to school.

What do you think of the 'ban bossy' campaign?
Instead of drawing focus to how girls don’t fit the traditional male model of leadership, maybe we should look at how the model of leadership is changing, as is the world around it. It might even be time to encourage certain boys to be lessbossy, that the way to increase your power is to assume the mental vantage point of the least powerful person in the room. And just as we shouldn’t criticize girls for acting quote-unquote ‘masculine’ (“that bitch”) we shouldn’t criticize boys for acting quote-unquote ‘feminine’ (“that pussy”). It might help to recognize that the most powerful and beloved leaders can tune into the crowd and move it from the inside out, combining traits that are associated with both genders.

What? You can stream music on Youtube?

I loved this guide to cultural hand gestures. (I used to get the 'come here' gesture wrong when I lived in Taiwan all.the.time)

Is this cute or dumpy?

I just discovered this local fashion blogger: MEOW.

Did you know my first job out of a college was event planning? Yup. I loved this behind-the-scenes look at the industry.
As the planner and coordinator, it's always our fault. I hate saying it because I have a feeling I'll get slack on that point, but it's true. It doesn't matter what vendor screwed up - if your photographer didn't get an important shot or the rental company didn't bring enough chairs or the fire alarm goes off because the band brought a smoke machine you didn't know about. It's always going to be the planner's fault. Actually, let me rephrase that - a good planner will more than likely take responsibility for it.

Things to eat/bake/cook: carrot green chimichurri, crispy smashed potatoes, lemon raspberry pie heart crusts, dino pasta with dino kale, raw pad thai.

Do you, too, suffer from Rental Kitchen of Doom? It's totally possible to make rental kitchens adorable!

Yup. 10 universal truths.

I really liked this post about how we can think differently about time and wasting vs. spending.

Gosh but I love homes in repurposed buildings! Look at these old school houses that have been home-i-fied!

Around the world in 80 diets!
Willie Ishulutak, an Innuit soapstone carver in Iqaluit, Nunavut, Canada with one day's typical food, and drink. The caloric value of his day's worth of food on a typical day in the month of October was 4700 kcals. He is 29 years of age; 5 feet, 9 inches and 143 pounds

Naming products for a living: not what you thought.

Such a pretty dress for spring!

Did you see that COMPLETELY OFFENSIVE Cadillac 'Poolside' ad? Ford created their own as a response and it's great.

Let's make a pact that we're never going to wear these.

I had no idea. Did you know William S. Burroughs killed his wife? And it's just a quirky footnote in his history?
In the story, as it's commonly repeated, Burroughs fired at Vollmer during a party while enacting a "William Tell" game. Having, according to him, accidently aimed low, his bullet struck Vollmer's head, killing her. Burroughs himself mythologized the event, claiming it was the genesis of his becoming a writer, while distancing himself from it, as well, seeing it evidence of an "invader," or "Ugly Spirit" inside him.

A few Yes and Yes posts you might have missed: Amazing quotes from our girl Zora Neale Hurston, True Story: A nudist resort helped me love my body, 10 ways to feel rich

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Is it possible to be smart AND funny? (Dur. Yes.)

This post is brought to you by free-range eggs, anthropomorphism, the letter P, and The Parsnippety.

I would like, very much, to be the sort of person who understands the difference between free range and organic, who buys only local, organic produce and knows that Monsanto is a multinational chemical, and agricultural biotechnology corporation (not an evil cartoon count).

And while I would like to be that sort of person - I'm also really drawn to funny cat videos.

Since I care about hormone-free milk but I also have a short attention span (and an appreciation for memes) The Parsnippety is pretty much the best website that's ever happened to my knowledge of the environment, plants, and animals. Why? Because it addresses tough, smart, complicated topics (like climate change, pesticide use, fossil fuels) with short, funny videos and cartoons of talking vegetables.  I can do that!

An excerpt from one of my favorite posts:
Asked by a reporter to comment on fossil fuels and climate change, the moss turned a darker shade of green and clenched its tiny non-vascular fists, saying: “Don’t get me started on this—not now! Nothing’s going to stop me from enjoying this moment and celebrating with all these wonderful species, some of them really exotic. Find me later and I’ll give you a quote.”

You can follow along with their adventures on Twitter or Facebook (or you could just poke your head into your veggie crisper and ask that head of broccoli what's up - but that probably wouldn't be very informative.)

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Thursday, April 17, 2014

10 Things To Do In Florida If You (Like Me) Don't Like Amusement Parks

I'd like to start this blog post by acknowledging that I don't like amusement parks.
Fried food, spew-inducing roller coasters, long lines, direct sunlight, other people's poorly behaved children? ABSOLUTELY NOT.

You'd quite literally have to pay me $200 to go to Disneyland.

So when my guy invited me to tag along to a conference in Tampa my thought process went something like this:
"Ohhhhh! Beaches and warmth! (But what I am going to do on day three when I've read all my books and I've reached that sweet spot of slightly-less-pale-but-not-sunburned?)"

Friends, be ye not so stupid as me. There are tons of fun, interesting things to do in Florida that don't involve creepy cartoon characters or animatronic figures shrilling old songs at you.

Here are ten of my favorites!

1. Drink in a Tiki bar
Did you know these were still A Thing? I certainly didn't. If you're not familiar, a tiki bar "is an exotic–themed drinking establishment that serves elaborate cocktails, especially rum-based mixed drinks such as the Mai Tai or 'Zombie cocktail'". My guy and I popped into Ka Tiki (directly across the street from the beach!) and had two drinks and a plate of fried things for $12. People also say good things about The Backyard and The Bamboo Beach Bar and Grill.

2. See the Weeki Wachee mermaids
Do you love magical things? Do you love life? Are you a human being with a pulse? If so, you will love these mermaids. I loved them so much I'll be devoting a separate post to their magic, but let me assure you that they are 100% worth the $13 entrance fee. The ladies perform three times a day (a different show each time) and you can also take a river cruise, rent kayaks, swim, and see an educational animal show between shows.

3. Smoke a hand-rolled cigar
I'm not really good at smoking things and I've never inhaled a single cigar. That being said, I love watching people make things with their hands and tobacco leaves smell like subtle, vanilla-scented heaven. Ybor City is full of cigar shops where you can press your eager face to the window and watch cigar rollers at work. Or you can just go inside and buy cigars. And did you know they even come in different flavors?

4. Watch a movie at the Tampa Theatre
Oh, what's that? You'd like to pay normal movie prices for a gorgeous, old-school movie-viewing experience? And you like interesting indie movies? This is the place for you, friends. Unchanged since it was built in 1926, the theatre features a huge balcony, insanely fancy turrets and tiling, AND A WOMAN WHO PLAYS THE CALLIOPE BEFORE EACH MOVIE. Movies are $11. Get on it.

5. Visit the Dali Museum
Melting watches, spectacular mural-sized paintings, religious pieces featuring Dali's wife's face as the Virgin Mary - they're all here. Get the free audio guide and learn more about his complex relationship with his family and his forays into advertising and movies. Be sure to take your photo with the giant mustache outside and add your entrance bracelet to the wish tree! (Tickets are a bit expensive so try to get them ahead of time at your AAA office or go on Thursdays after 5.)

5. Go to Big Cat Rescue and squee over the Lion and Tigress couple
Did you know there are still several states where you're allowed to own big cats? And they frequently don't count as pets but as property - so animal endangerment laws don't protect them? Yuck. Big Cat Rescue serves as a permanent second home to big cats who've been confiscated in police raids (!) or rescued from road-side zoos or circuses.

My favorite cats were the lion and tiger couple who'd been introduced as cubs, raised together, and rescued together. They live together at Big Cat Rescue where apparently the tigress taunts the lion by throwing his toys in the pool (because he doesn't like water) and shaking herself off after a swim directly next to him. Big Cats: They're Jerks Just Like Our Cats.

7. Go on a Dolphin-spotting tour
I know it's suuuuuuper tempting to swim with captive dolphins and there are about a million places in Florida where you can that. But dolphins are uniquely ill-suited to confinement. They're social creatures that live in large pods and travel forty-plus miles a day, with 80 percent of that time spent beneath the surface of the water.

So! How about we just go look at dolphins, swimming happily in their natural habitat? I'm totally partial to this tour company called Little Toot.

8. Kayak with manatees
I swam with a manatee already but I'd be happy to kayak along side these sweet, teddybear-faced guys. This company runs a particularly animal and eco-friendly company, discouraging you from befriending them in the wild even if they hug and kiss your kayak. Which they apparently do.

9. Eat your weight in Cuban food
Dur. Obviously. Let's talk about cuban sandwiches (sweet ham, roast pork and Swiss cheese on toasted Cuban bread with mustard and pickles), filete salteado (strips of beef tenderloin sauteed with peppers and a special sauce) and pernil asado (pork shoulder braised with onions in its own juices and spices.) Or, if you're vegetarian like me, order croquetas de frijoles (bean croquettes) or madures fritos (fried ripe plantains).

10. Go thrifting
A huge percentage of Florida's inhabitants are retirees and snowbirds who are regularly downsizing and getting rid of their gorgeous vintage dresses and mid century furniture. Which means you can swoop in like the thrifting bird of paradise you are and snatch them up for a song. I hear good things about PreviewMod, Red white and blue thrift stores, and The Rabbit Hole.

Florida natives, what other good things should we know about?

P.S. 5 unmissable Louisiana adventures and How to road trip solo

photos sam howitz // roadside wonders // jason mcelweenie // wlbpa // // constant rambling // chrismatos // boxer bob // eugene kim // orin zebest

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

How To Take Gorgeous, Sale-Making Product Photos

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If you sell physical products you know you need great photos, right? Pop over to my small business blog for some insight on how to do just that!

Real Talk: Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? Because you can't always be both.

For the last five months, I've been engaged in a (quiet, polite) battle of wills. 

It's been me vs. parking lot ice, me vs. the building manager, me vs. sand + salt almost every day since the mercury dipped below 32 degrees.

I live in an adorable apartment, in an neighborhood worthy of a Nora Ephron movie; I'm extremely lucky that the rent on said apartment is $300 below market value. Why? Because the management is ... spotty. At best.

For much of the winter the back entrance to my apartment building and our parking lot have been caked with glare ice and packed snow. The path to my car was literally three inches of so-shiny-you-can-see-yourself-in-it ice for months.

And this is, of course, Not Acceptable.

I tried to be sweet and subtle. 
(Hey, Chris! I'm sure you hadn't noticed because you don't park back there, but the parking lot is pretty icy. I bet everyone would love it if you could toss some salt down.)
I tried to be direct.
(Hey, since it snowed I'm really having trouble getting in and out of the parking lot. Could you put some sand and salt down?)
I tried being legal-y.
(The parking lot is super slippery, Chris. It's incredibly dangerous for all the tenants to be walking around on all that glare ice. If anyone falls the owners of the building are liable for all their medical bills. So.)

And do you know what happened? N-O-T-H-I-N-G.
Or rather, I was told that (by some miracle of physics) the salt he was buying simply wasn't effective at melting that ice! Go figure!

So I did a little math.
Time spent walking gingerly and slowly because I'm afraid of the ice: a lot
Time spent trying to politely, diplomatically get someone to do something: a lot
Time spent complaining about parking lot to other tenants: at least 20 minutes

And do you know how much a bag of salt costs? $5.
And do you know how much I charge per hour? More than $5. 

So I bought some salt, threw it around the parking lot, stopped slipping all over and stopped thinking mean thoughts about my building manager.

And the thing is? I'm totally, 100% right. My building manager is legally required to remove the ice and snow from the property and provide us with a safe place to park our cars. I could have spent so much time being right. I could have emailed the owner of the building, emailed tenancy advocates, rallied the other tenants to complain.

(But it was way easier and faster to just buy some effing salt.)

I would never, ever suggest that you accept injustices or slights as a matter of course. Or that you should roll over and accept abuses and allow people to take advantage of you.

But next time you get your proverbial undies in a bunch (which, if you're me, happens like three times a day) maybe ask yourself "Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?" If you dig a bit deeper, there might be a $5, I'll-let-this-one-go solution that will lead you back to friendly neighbors and sure footing.

When have you chosen 'happy' over 'right'? Was it hard?

P.S. A 4-step plan to feel better and You're awesome. So then what? 

photo by davide ragusa // cc // via unsplash

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Mini Travel Guide: America's Pacific Northwest

This is one of many Mini Travel Guides in which we ask locals about their favorite things and insider tips. You can find previous guides (both international and domestic) here

Hi! I’m Sam from The Philosophy of Kindness. Five years ago I flew to Seattle on a whim. It was love at first sight. One month later my bags were packed and I never looked back.

When I think of the Pacific Northwest I think of it’s the green forests, cities that incorporate nature at every turn, mountains, farms, harbors, coffee shops on every corner, thrift shops and half off bookstores everywhere, and the quirkiness of cities that celebrate being offbeat.

Must go
The Oregon Coast
If breathtaking is what you are looking for the coast is where you need to head. It’s 363 miles of isolated beaches dotted with quaint seaside towns, cliffs, sand dunes, sea stacks jutting out of the ocean, picturesque lighthouses and great spots to view sea lions.

Stanley Park, Vancouver, B.C.
Stanley Park is a breath of fresh air if you are looking to escape the city. There is so much to do here. Tour the Rose Garden, visit the First Nation totem poles or stand inside a 700-year-old cedar tree. However a stroll around the seawall shouldn't be passed up. If the tide is in enough you can look over the side and see huge purple starfish clinging to the rock below.

Granite Falls, WA
The quaint town isn't so much the destination, but it is the main stopping point to get info and park passes for Mountain Loop Highway. The Highway cuts its way through the Cascade Mountain Range where you can find camping sites, lakes, hiking trails, and picnic areas can be can be found throughout the area. The biggest attraction are the Big Four Ice Caves, which are a short hike from the highway. Further down the road is Monte Cristo,once a booming prospectors city now it’s a ghost town.

Must Do
If you are looking for a unique event Seafair is a summer long festival that takes place throughout Seattle. At any given time you can take part in the Solstice Parade celebrating artists, watch milk carton boat derbies, or check out the Seafair pirates storming the beach. Every town also seems to host their own street fairs where you can check out the local handcrafted scene.

Get out of the city
Hood Canal, Olympic National Park, San Juan Islands, Mount Rainier, Mount St. Helens, Earth Sanctuary, Mount Baker, Mount Hood the list goes on. If you are visiting a city you can easily find a National or State park within a hour or two drive from where you are staying. The Cascades surround the area and are beautiful to view from the city but are spectacular to hike through.

Take a ferry
They are rather an inexpensive way to get around and offer some of the best views around. Plus if you they aren't a normal tourist attraction so they will drop you off in non­-tourist spots that are fun to explore.

Must eat
The coffee culture in the Pacific Northwest is unlike anywhere else in the US. Skip Starbucks or anything with a name you recognize and go to any of the local cafes. Many coffee shops roast their own beans and if they don’t, they surely buy from local roasters. Try a pour over to bring out the flavor profiles or a Chemex to share.

Dungeness Crab
It's sweet, tender, meaty, and best of all it's a sustainable seafood. There are so many ways to cook it. You can find it in crab cakes, chowder, wontons, but my personal favorite is just to dip it in butter and savor the flavor.

Cultural tips
The Pacific Northwest is a really liberal area. We are very much about environmental causes, sustainability, buying local, and organic. You will see trash, recycling, and compost bins everywhere.

People here are really friendly, especially in the the more touristy areas. Bus drivers were one of the best sources I found in regards for help in getting around and information on what to see and do.

Travel on the cheap
Outside of the cities transportation can be difficult. However buses and bikes are a great way to get around. There are two options for traveling between Portland, Seattle, and Vancouver. Amtrak operates between the cities and you can get great views of the ocean from the train. The Bolt Bus also runs between the cities and you can get a seat for as low as $1.

Hostels are a great way to go and can be found in each city.

Things to do
In the summer is when the Pacific Northwest comes alive. There are festivals, an abundance of parks to visit, Shakespeare in the Park, Pow Wows, farmer’s markets (usually there is live music), and parades. All of these things are free or very minimal cost. Also many areas offer year round art walks and markets with entertainment. Some museums also offer free entrance certain times each month.

Thanks, Sam!  I'm sure lots of you guys are native P.N.W.-ers. What else do we need to know about?

P.S. I'm looking for expats and locals to write Mini Travel Guides about these places. Is that you?

Monday, April 14, 2014

True Story: I work At a Children’s Psychiatric Hospital

This is one of many True Story interviews in which we talk to people who have experienced interesting, challenging, amazing things.  This is the story of Leann and her work at a children's psych hospital.

Tell us a bit about yourself
I’m a recent college grad, living in Oklahoma. I currently work at a children’s psychiatric hospital. Because of this high stress job I try to find fun ways to distress during my week. In my free time I enjoy going to the many neighborhood festival my city has to offer, binge watching Netflix episodes, and doing yoga. 

I think a lot of us believe that psychological issues are sort of limited to adults. How many children are in your ward? Why are they there?
Children with psychological issues tend to be a controversial topic and something people don’t like to think about, it can be disheartening. This hospital is on the larger side and holds about 160 children, ages 5-17. The patients are admitted for a variety of psychological issues, including eating disorders, behavioral issues, depression, sexual trauma, etc. 

How long are patients usually in the ward? 
The patient’s stay depends on their willingness or ability to work their treatment. They can stay anywhere from a few days to a year. With complicated trauma or behavioral issues it can take a long time to process what has happened or what they have done. This is especially true for children who have multiple diagnoses. It also depends on the red-tape of insurance companies. Most insurance companies put a limit on how many days they will pay for. 

What types of treatments do the patients receive in your ward?
The patients have a team of highly qualified healthcare professionals which include a psychiatrist, a nurse, individual therapist, family therapist, and the mental health workers that spend the whole day with them. The children also attend group therapy and recreational therapy, which is like art therapy.

Do the patients receive visitors? 
The patients receive visitors on the weekends. The visitors have to be pre-approved by the therapist and whoever has custody of the patient. If the patient is in CPS custody their parents probably can’t visit them, unless approved by the appropriate authority. The patients and visitors meet in the cafeteria while supervised by mental health worker. While visiting everyone can play board games and get snacks from the vending machines. The patients usually come back in a good mood after the visits. 

How do you (and other patients) feel when someone is released? 
This is also dependent on the patient and their unique situation. If the patient leaves against medical advice or a judge declares them free to go it can make me nervous. I believe there is potential for the patient and community to be in a dangerous setting, unless they go to outpatient therapy. The harsh reality is most of them will have another incident or episode and have to come back or go to another facility. This is especially true for those patients with violent and harmful behaviors towards others. 

If a patient is discharged and they have completed treatment, I’m a less nervous. There is always the possibility they will have to come back or might go to a different hospital. Many of the patients are released to a group home or shelter, and the fact they might not go to back to a family that will love them is another harsh reality of this job. 

Generally the other patients are happy and excited for the patient to be released. They understand that it’s not a fun vacation and they look forward to the day they can leave too. 

How did you get into this line of work?
I stumbled into this job on accident. Being the overachiever I am, I decided to apply for jobs early this year before I graduated. I actually just put a search for “psych jobs” on the internet and came across several psychiatric hospitals. I knew I needed more than a bachelor’s degree to advance in the field of psychology. I also wanted to gain experience before I settled on a graduate program. 

Can you take us through an average day on the job?
I usually work the afternoon/evening shift. At the beginning of the shift the nurse in charge that day will give a report of all the patients and what happened that day and usually the day before. Then the staff will take the patients outside or to the gym for exercise. If we don’t do physical activities then the patients will participate in quiet journaling or reading. I’ll help the patient complete their evening hygiene and then take them to dinner.

After dinner is evening rehab group (they usually have two a day). These groups will be different depending on the day. They usually involve relaxation, anger management, and social skills. After all of this the patients will get ready for bed. It between all of that is making connections with patients, managing the chaos that comes with a large group of patients and dealing with the various crises that can occur. 

How do people react when you tell them where you work?
People’s reactions really tell a lot about our world’s view of psychological issues. Those who have children are shocked and horrified that such things can happen to children. I had one person tell me they just try to not think about that part of life. I could clearly see the level of discomfort on their face. My peers at school were generally fascinated by the job and the stories I have to tell. When you study these psychological disorders textbooks simply state the characteristics but you never hear their stories. When you are confronted with the face of mental illness you can finally see that we have only scratched the surface. Sometimes there is no real explanation for what the human mind endures.

Do you think you'll stay in this line of work long-term?
I always want to study psychology and be involved in this field, it’s truly my passion. However, I haven’t even worked this job for a year and I already feel burned out. I’ve been exploring other options psychology has to offer. I believe we can do the most good if we are involved in preventative measures instead of focusing primarily on treatment after the fact.

What advice would you give to others who are interested in working in psychological services?
The best advice I would give is explore EVERY option you can find. Do the internships and the practicums and ask to speak with someone that already does that which interests you. Sitting in a classroom taught me many valuable lessons, but I have learned so much more by having contact with the patients every day.

Thanks so much for sharing, Leann.  Do you guys have any questions for her? Do any of you work in the mental health field? 

photo familymwr // cc

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Web Time Wasters

Friends! As you read this I'm in Florida, fulfilling the dream of a lifetime: seeing the Weeki Wachee mermaids in person. I'll (obviously) write about it but I can assure you - I probably cried with joy about it. (If you'd like to see some of my photos from the trip, you can follow along on Instagram.)

Enough about mermaids (jk there are never enough mermaids.) Links for you!

A pretty photo blog, created by two friends with the same name: Kate Berry.

Welp, this is obviously adorable: a young girl whose BFF is an English bulldog. WHO WEARS OUTFITS.

Related: I'll never have a daughter, but if I did her bedroom would look like this.

I have tonnnnnns of foreign change rattling around my desk drawer. This super simple, cute DIY got them out on display.

I love beautifully designed, carefully curated print. We'd all be smarter and our coffee tables more interesting if we subscribed to 32 magazine.

I loved this tiny piece from my girl Rachel Hills.

Preeeeeety sure I had this backpack in fifth grade. Does that mean I'm too old for it now?

We all love a good list of life-tips, right? This one is full of things I already know but need to be reminded of.
10 Life Lessons To Excel In Your 30s
5. You can’t have everything; Focus On Doing a Few Things Really Well
“Everything in life is a trade-off. You give up one thing to get another and you can’t have it all. Accept that.” (Eldri, 60)
In our 20s we have a lot of dreams. We believe that we have all of the time in the world. I myself remember having illusions that my website would be my first career of many. Little did I know that it took the better part of a decade to even get competent at this. And now that I’m competent and have a major advantage and love what I do, why would I ever trade that in for another career?
“In a word: focus. You can simply get more done in life if you focus on one thing and do it really well. Focus more.” (Ericson, 49)

Ha! What happens when a girl posts an ad on a dating site, looking for a husband who makes more than 500k a year?

I grew up in the country, outside a town of 2,000 people. If you've ever wondered what it feels like to live in a small town, this music video captures it pretty perfectly.

A documentary we should all watch.

Need help putting your intentions into action? This'll help.

I CANNOT recommend these ballet flats highly enough. Insanely comfortable, last forever, good for your feet and legs. They're totally worth the (slightly) higher price. Love yourself enough to stop buying $15 Target flats! (Unless you put these in them.)

Next time my cat acts up, I'm going to do this.

Is it possible to accelerate serendipity
Say “Yes, and…” instead of “Yes, but…”
This is such a simple thing to try. Any time someone gives you a suggestion, and you feel yourself thinking of playing the devils’ advocate, stop. Starting a sentence with “yes, but” is a surefire way to close down an opportunity—try to think about the other person’s idea or statement and see what you could add. Start with “yes, and…” and go from there! It’s a principle from the world of improv, and I’m often surprised by the happy accidents that result from a simple suggestion to someone.

Oh, helpful! 4 great photo editing apps!

Driving the Pacific Coast Highway is on my life-to-do list. A super helpful post about where you should stop on that roadtrip.

Apparently, we should all be cooking with this ingredient.

Is personal branding bs?
People don’t need brands. We already have brands. Your brand is your personality.
We lead ourselves into a weird, objectifying split from self when we try to create or deliberately present a brand. Instead, approach it from the inside out. Work at being the most expressed, consistent, unapologetic version of your authentic self. Work at letting the real you come through. Work at having the courage to say what you actually have to say. Then you’ll have a strong, coherent “brand” naturally, which is to say, people will know who you are because you will be living it.

Also!  If you appreciate my taste in links, we should be friends on Twitter! Every night I share my 'Fave read of the Day' (which are different links than what I've featured here) hashtagged #yandy for easy reading.

Some Yes and Yes posts you might have missed: True Story: I went from self-employed to 9-to-5 and I love it!, How to purge your closet, 9 ways to love moving your body

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Fun links! Blogging tips for busy women + financial self-sabotage + banishing overwhelm

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Thursday, April 10, 2014

7 Insanely Easy Hairstyles Even The Laziest of Us Will Try

Last month I cut 8 inches off my hair - partially because I could never figure out what to do with it. 
So now I have a long bob annnnnnnd I still don't know what to do with it. Things have pretty much degenerated into:
1. Straight
2. Curled 

THINGS ARE A WHIRLWIND OF EXCITEMENT AND CHANGE AROUND HERE. So, in an attempt to inspire myself to something a bit more interesting than pinned-back-bangs + curling wand I've rounded up seven cute hairstyles you can do in five minutes, on dirty hair. (Because, let's be real, that's about how much effort I'm willing to put in.)  Links to instructions embedded in images. 

Do you do anything exciting with your hair? Also: how often do you wash yours? I only wash mine twice a week (though I do that 'wash your bangs in the sink' thing more most days.)

P.S. What's the point of pretty? and my three product makeup bag