Fascinating! An interview with a woman who helps celebrities manage their money (and a great reminder that EVERYONE suffers from the comparison trap!) I don’t want to blame anything on the Kardashians, but the pressure to emulate that lifestyle is infectious, and some of my clients don’t realize that other celebrities are getting a lot of stuff for free. There are celebrities who get paid to be courtside at basketball games, $25,000 or $50,000 just to sit there for two hours.
And not only that, they’ll get an entire box of designer clothes shipped to their house so they can pick out what to wear, for free. It’s impossible to keep up with that, but it’s natural to want to. My clients experience the same social pressures that we all feel, in normal life, except for them it’s amplified and more public.
JUST AS I SUSPECTED! Writing A Book Did Not Change My Life. It made me proud, yes, and it made me a little bit of money (less, trust me, always less than people imagine, especially when tax season comes around), but I am still the same messy, procrastinating, nervous, usually sad person I was before I completed what had, up until that point, been my lifelong dream.
But are you one of those Type A humans who runs themselves ragged? Who struggles to uncouple their productivity from their self-worth? Who fill their days (and evenings and weekends) with one million tiny tasks?
If you are this person, I’d like to introduce you to one solution to your Type A problems: the To Do For Fun list. Quite simply, a To Do For Fun list is a list of fun things you’d like to do with your evening, your weekend, or any free time that falls into your calendar.
I realize this might sound completely counter-intuitive, but sometimes if I don’t plan to have fun … I don’t. My lazy, unstructured weekend becomes an opportunity to organize paperwork, clean the fridge, and detail the car. And then once I‘ve worn myself down, I’ll fall into a Netflix coma. Instead, what if I made a To Do For Fun list that looked like this?
Weekend To Do For Fun list
Go to the beach + get nachos at Sandcastle
Give myself a manicure
Make sweet corn ice cream
Even if I don’t do any of those things (which is fine, since it’s a To Do For Fun list!), I’ve taken five minutes to remind myself that this time is set aside for fun and relaxation. This time is not for never-ending chores, meeting other people’s deadlines, or putting everyone else’s needs before my own.
What does it mean to reinvent yourself and your life at 50? I know sooooo many people who feel trapped in their lives or career and they’re not even 35! I LOVED this interview Judy and I think you will, too.
What’d you get up to this week, friends? We celebrated Independence Day the way the Lord intended: next to water, eating rippled potato chips with French Onion dip. This weekend, we took the boys up north to see my parents and we’re jumping off of docks, riding bikes, and generally living that #wholesomecountrylife.
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