Web Time Wasters

What’d you get up to this week, friends? We celebrated Independence Day the way the Lord intended: next to water, eating rippled potato chips with French Onion dip. This weekend, we took the boys up north to see my parents and we’re jumping off of docks, riding bikes, and generally living that #wholesomecountrylife.

Links for you!

If you’re an American creative, marketer, designer, or web developer and you want to help progressive get elected in the mid-terms, donate your professional skillset via The Creative Cabinet! I just signed up to help with copywriting!

Related: What did Obama have to say to Democrats last week?
“If you are one of these folks who is watching cable news at your cocktail parties with your friends and you are saying ‘civilization is collapsing’ and you are nervous and worried, but that is not where you are putting all your time, energy and money, then either you don’t actually think civilization is collapsing … or you are not pushing yourself hard enough and I would push harder.”

Oh my gosh! Cute story alert! Did you know that Amy Poehler and Nick Offerman first met at a house party in Chicago in 1993?!

In case you need a reminder that we’re all imperfect and doing the best we can, check out the #imperfectwoman hashtag on Instagram.

A Youtube channel I find myself obsessed with.

Male priviledge is A Thing even when it comes to female entrepreneurship.

I CANNOT believe this is a student apartment.

I gobbled up this novel in four days!

Another reason to love Tracee Ellis-Ross: she constantly asks why her Black-Ish character has to do ‘Lady Chores’
They get so sick of me. But I always ask, “Is it necessary for me to be doing this? Is it pivotal to the story that we’re telling that I’m in the kitchen cooking? Can’t I just be sitting here with my laptop and a glass of wine?

Read This Story and Get Happier: The most popular course at Yale teaches how to be happy. These writers took it for us.

Are these the only three things necessary for a happy relationship?

Related: A ‘Before You Commit’ workbook/checklist

I’m sure we’ve all dealt with this: helping someone who doesn’t seem to want help.
I think it’s important to respond in some way.

“Hey J, that sounds awful. I don’t know what to say, but I read what you said.” 

Don’t give advice. Don’t offer solutions. Don’t feed the spiral. Just sit there with the person for a second and say “I see you.”

You could also try:

“J, that sounds like it feels awful, I’m so sorry. Sometimes I don’t say anything because I have no idea what to say and I’m afraid of saying something that will make it worse. Is there anything I could say right now that would help you feel better?” 

I imagine this is incredibly common: When I Fought Anorexia, I Got Help. When I Fought Binge Eating, I Just Got Embarrassed

Hope you had a lovely weekend!

4 Comments

Eliza

EMILIA FART IS AMAZING. I’ve only discovered her recently myself, and she’s so wonderfully theatrical and dramatic and over the top…

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Mary Wallace

Yes, male privilege is a thing. I’ve found the book How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith to be enlightening and helpful. I’ve been going through a transition at work and I wish I had read this book a year ago. I would have built networks and forged ahead instead of worrying about bothering people and knowing all the answers. I’ve listened to it twice and I think I need another go-round for inspiration.

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Laura

Susan Jane Gilman is one of my favorite writers! You should definitely check out her non fiction too. I think you’d especially like her memoir about backpacking through China after college, Undress Me in the Temple of Heaven. Her other memoir, Hypocrite in a Pouffy White Dress, is also amazing and hilarious, I’ve read it to shreds and buy copies for friends.

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