How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others (Finally)
Is it possible to really, actually stop comparing yourself to others? Especially if you’re follow them on social media and their seemingly perfect life streams through your phone 24/7?
Yes! It’s possible! But – like many good things – it takes some work. Today, Fajr is giving us great advice on how to avoid the comparison trap.
It happens to all of us. A friend gets a promotion, your sister has the dress you’ve been eyeing for months and your ex is dating the equivalent of Megan Fox. It seems that amazing things are happening to everyone around you and you’re left on the sidelines feeling like the last kid picked for the game of life.
It’s easy to get lost in the trap of comparing yourself to others. When we see people with qualities or things we want it’s natural for us to feel insecure and a tad bit envious. Comparing yourself and feeling less than because of their great traits is an endless spiral and while there are people who are better at telling jokes than you, can read a novel in one sitting or can sing the entire Beatles catalogue by heart that doesn’t make you less great!
We all have unique, God-given talents that make us special and beyond compare. Here are five ways to shut down those nagging feelings and recognize your greatness in the greatness of others.
5 ways to stop comparing yourself to other
1. Realize no one’s life is perfect
Sure the supermodel with the athlete boyfriend seems to have it made. But when you envy her divine life, remember that nothing and no one is perfect. And while things may appear glossy on the outside, there may less desirable things beneath. Don’t pick apart someone else’s life, but understand that all that glitters is not gold.
2. Count your Blessings
It may seem that your life would be better if you were beautiful like your bestie or a rich celebrity, but coveting other people’s blessings makes you forget about your own. While you may not be Daddy Warbucks, you have unique riches that are yours alone.
You won first place on your track and field team. You can write iambic pentameter in your sleep. Your are hot stuff and the sooner you see that, the sooner everyone else will! When we focus on what we don’t have, we leave little time to cultivate and grow what we do have. Playing small does you a disservice – be your own biggest fan!
5. Accept yourself… as is
There are things we all want to improve on and when we see other people doing those things we so desperately want, we’re quick to feel bad about ourselves. But we are where we are for a reason and accepting who you are will nip ill feelings in the bud.
We’re surrounded by dynamic people accomplishing great things. Instead of letting others achievements get the better of you, use them to fuel yourself and highlight the one-of-a-kind things that make you stellar. No contest.
Do you find yourself comparing to others? If you’ve found a way to stop, tell us in the comments so we can benefit from your advice!
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