Comments on yes and yes: I Secretly Enjoy Life

this is so true. i told my friend that ive taken o...

2010-01-10T22:02:43.709-06:00

this is so true. i told my friend that ive taken on a new attitude for the new year and i dont care what anyone thinks. and it has helped me in all my classes...and that im doing sooo great. and my "friend" thought my optimism was annoying and we havent spoken for 2 weeks.

you shouldn't secretly enjoy it, your supposed...

2009-12-28T20:17:05.349-06:00

you shouldn't secretly enjoy it, your supposed to enjoy life!

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What a wonderful post! I think that's true in...

2009-12-20T23:13:16.404-06:00

What a wonderful post! I think that's true in so many ways that it's more socially acceptable to complain about things. I remember being so shocked when my college professor said most people were unhappy and I (aloud) said, "That's not true!" And then he took a poll and only one other girl and I said we were happy in life! Crazy!
Thank you so much for posting this happiness!

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You hit the nail on the head my friend. I'm a ...

2009-12-18T21:24:24.906-06:00

You hit the nail on the head my friend. I'm a freshman in college majoring in sociology and art education and couldn't be happier! I love my school, I love my classes and I love my friends! The issue is, the majority of my friends are miserable in their chosen career paths/major and don't understand how I could be happy majoring in something that ultimately won't make me a millionaire. When they complain about the path their lives are currently on, I can't help but wonder why they choose to live that way. We can all CHOOSE to be happy. I do it almost every day! I hope your post will inspire more people let out their lust for life instead of filtering and hiding it away!

I love Karli's comment! I teach kids environm...

2009-12-18T12:48:51.600-06:00

I love Karli's comment! I teach kids environmental ed (and I want to be a middle school science teacher). And the most disheartening thing is listening to teachers whine and moan about their work. Hello? Why do it if you don't love it? I have a year and a half or more of school before I can be a teacher, and I would so switch places right now with any of the teachers who don't love their job.

I do need to apply your advice to the rest of life. I don't have a job right now, and I live in a pretty small place with not many people my own age so that my boyfriend can work. It's hard not to get down on my no-friends, nothing-to-do life and start looking on the bright side and actively working to fix the parts I don't like.

still giggling about the "that Pam and Jim go...

2009-12-16T09:15:41.571-06:00

still giggling about the "that Pam and Jim got together" part. i love you! so funny!
xo-

p.s. i agree with you 100000%.

I love this post, as well as reading everyone'...

2009-12-16T06:06:36.339-06:00

I love this post, as well as reading everyone's comments.
You're so right, many of us (me, included) tend to play down happiness and accomplishments, and it's so unnecessary. We deserve to be proud of our achievements!

P.S. your job does sound AWESOME!

Oh hell no! I NEVER feel like I need to make excus...

2009-12-16T05:29:22.156-06:00

Oh hell no! I NEVER feel like I need to make excuses for my happiness or downplay my successes.

I have frighteningly high self esteem and state it all the time. But I'm in my close group of friends I'm kind of celebrated for that.

I do enjoy my job. Obviously I'd prefer to be a full time actor/writer/queen but in rent paying reality my job is pretty flipping sweet. And I say so all the time.

Loved this post!

And LOVE that you love your work.

xxx

What a wonderful blog :) I never realized how muc...

2009-12-16T03:21:10.753-06:00

What a wonderful blog :)

I never realized how much I downplay things to "fit in" - since it seems like everyone else is complaining about their jobs or body image or debt, maybe I should too. Yes, I would feel a bit awkward sharing that I love my job and that I'm proud of my post-partum weight-loss, and that I'm debt-free (except mortgage) when others around me are complaining, but hopefully that will be something that turns around so that everyone can be more positive! :)

I think this weird phenomenon has something to do ...

2009-12-16T03:02:52.649-06:00

I think this weird phenomenon has something to do with the fact that, for most people, the two foci of their lives are their job and their family/relationships. The latter are something we all try to work on (in theory), but people are weirdly prone to getting stuck in dull, unfulfilling careers. Granted, there are more boring or unpleasant jobs in the world than great ones, but isn't part of the fun in the pursuit of something? There's a weird complacency when it comes to work, and I suspect it's maintained by the perpetuation of this myth that everyone hates their jobs, therefore anyone who's individually miserable is at least in like company.

Then again, I'm the one taking out thousands of dollars in loans to pay for a graduate degree that will probably get me mediocre pay for the rest of my life. Most people would think I'm nuts, and not stick around to listen to the 'but I love books, and I love teaching!' part of the story. I probably am nuts, but I'm going to be happy (thanks to my own hard work!), and I see no reason not to be proud of that. Your job sounds completely amazing, and your dance moves should only be used for doubling the amount of love you get, not re-earning it : )

I've just started to read your blog, I love it...

2009-12-16T02:05:27.126-06:00

I've just started to read your blog, I love it. Voila. And I'm all over this particular post. My man is HOT, charming and funny. Sorry!

I enjoyed this! Have you heard of Tall Poppy Syndr...

2009-12-16T00:30:27.963-06:00

I enjoyed this!
Have you heard of Tall Poppy Syndrome?
You pretty much summed it up in this post

i like mine! it's the result of having a few ...

2009-12-16T00:15:52.966-06:00

i like mine! it's the result of having a few I didn't like that I appreciate and like it... ;)

we should realize liking it is a compliment to those of us who do like our jobs since we put ourselves there ;)

I absolutely LOVE my job, but unfortunately, I'...

2009-12-15T21:34:39.797-06:00

I absolutely LOVE my job, but unfortunately, I'm only there for the year (one-yr academic position at a fantastic liberal arts college). I'm hoping something just as amazing comes along for me permanently. I think it's wonderful that you are happy in your work!

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Cathyn and Ali - no, we were talking about The Off...

2009-12-15T19:32:03.634-06:00

Cathyn and Ali - no, we were talking about The Office! Hahaha! :D

Amen to all of this! You're happy! You deserve...

2009-12-15T19:25:35.437-06:00

Amen to all of this! You're happy! You deserve happiness.

PS: Was the couple really named Jim and Pam? As in The Office?

No, definitely don't downplay your achievement...

2009-12-15T19:09:07.662-06:00

No, definitely don't downplay your achievements or excitement! Let your Lust For Life come out! We definitely need more happy people around, definitely.

By the way, I love that you mentioned Pam and Jim - not sure if you were referring to real people or The Office people, but it's awesome either way!

(Bahahaha my word verification word is whiner! How apt.)

wow oh how i wish i loved my job. i really really ...

2009-12-15T18:56:10.685-06:00

wow oh how i wish i loved my job. i really really don't, but i do love just about everything else in my life, so i've got to keep it real somehow. i liked this post a lot, though. and congratulations on loving your job. (lucky)

I totally know what you mean. I feel like this a l...

2009-12-15T18:21:42.123-06:00

I totally know what you mean. I feel like this a lot with some of my old high school friends. I feel really lucky that my close group of college friends and I genuinely support each other and celebrate our achievements. None of us are totally Happy with a capital H, we all tend to be positive thinkers and try to live life to the fullest without being bogged down by pettiness. Because that what this is all about, isn't? It's about being miserable and trying to take other people down with you, and that is something I cannot do.

One of my ex-boyfriend's mothers (who is Cauca...

2009-12-15T18:19:43.243-06:00

One of my ex-boyfriend's mothers (who is Caucasian) took it upon herself to downplay my accomplishments for me once. We were talking about university entrance scholarships and she said to me, "Well, it probably helped that you're a double minority--Chinese and a girl." Ouch.

Anyway, I learned from that experience that people who go out of their way to put the kibosh on your happy moments are probably grappling with their own issues (in this case, my ex-bf and I were in the running for the same scholarship and I got it, so she was probably a bit sore on behalf of her son). It's not a reflection on you even though it might hurt you, it's more of a reflection of what they're dealing with in their heads.

Hear hear sister! I often feel that pressure from ...

2009-12-15T17:10:20.997-06:00

Hear hear sister!
I often feel that pressure from people over 18.
I honestly try to not be around people who are part of that 'club' of down-playing & putting-down, everything. Sometimes this leaves me @ parties with one person to talk to, but I refuse to find something I'm unhappy about to lessen their insecurities.

Fabulous post, as always.
:) You rock!

I often feel that kind of pressure. But when I do,...

2009-12-15T16:52:20.830-06:00

I often feel that kind of pressure. But when I do, I go out of my way to find SOMETHING that the other person finds fulfilling in their life and play it up like theres no tomorrow. I like to hope that optimism is contagious.

it's odd, isn't it? it doesn't actuall...

2009-12-15T16:51:00.233-06:00

it's odd, isn't it? it doesn't actually make sense.

i recently (very very recently) began a job in retail, for a lovely company. and as soon as i did, even my lovely friends were asking me how my job was going with their sympathy faces at the ready.

i replied, "it's really awesome. everyone there is a lot of fun and really relaxed!"

their disappointment was palpable. what was that about? am i meant to to join an employment commiseration club? did i miss that memo?

if i did, i'm glad.

I have found myself apologizing for not having som...

2009-12-15T15:44:27.780-06:00

I have found myself apologizing for not having some bit of "drama" to share when people ask how life is going. It's so silly---I should be GRATEFUL that my life is lovely. Great post, as usual.

Totally agree. I feel weird being ultra happy abo...

2009-12-15T15:05:12.296-06:00

Totally agree. I feel weird being ultra happy about my job because it's not very impressive or anything, but I LOVE IT. I love my coworkers, I love waking up in the morning and heading to work, I even love my boss. Actually, I especially love my boss. She's amazing.