Comments on yes and yes: How to Get Over A Break Up

I don't know why I thought to Google "how...

2011-07-07T13:31:29.166-05:00

I don't know why I thought to Google "how to get over a really bad break up," but I'm glad I did. Even though this post was written two years ago, it's a reminder that a) I am not and will not be the only person who's ever been through a bad break up and b) I can survive this. I read every comment, every word, and it makes me smile to know that there's light on the other side of this. Thanks, girls (and guys).

Very good article. I have gone through all these. ...

2011-02-09T05:53:11.756-06:00

Very good article. I have gone through all these. It's possible but difficult. It takes long time. The only thing makes it possible is stay away...

Hi, my name is Sam, I found this site called www...

2010-11-10T05:45:39.672-06:00

Hi, my name is Sam, I found this site called

www.saveabreakup.com and after I followed the

instructions on it, it helped me get my ex back, and we

love each other now and forever.

I was looking for an advice about breaking up with...

2010-10-13T20:36:58.162-05:00

I was looking for an advice about breaking up with my boyfriend

I'm going through this and I have committed al...

2010-07-27T22:06:36.780-05:00

I'm going through this and I have committed all the crimes you aren't supposed to do. I sit around. I gave up on my appearance. And I see my ex all the time because it's the only way to get that heavy feeling off my chest. I love this article. It takes a strong person to be able to do the things on this. I know I'll definitely give it a shot.

I was glad to find this... As I type this I'm ...

2010-04-24T23:57:38.641-05:00

I was glad to find this...
As I type this I'm sitting in my bed crying over my own recent breakup. I know time heals all wounds (it's such a cliche but it is very true) but damn... this sucks! I hate waking up every morning wondering why I feel so bad.

This is a great post and the end made me cry. Than...

2010-03-19T17:12:34.195-05:00

This is a great post and the end made me cry. Thank you so much for writing this.

My hesitation with a lot of break-up advice is the idea that we should tell ourselves why the relationship was bad for us. I don't think that's always healthy. Part of committing to a partnership is realizing that no relationship is perfect and no person is perfect.

I think some relationships end because of timing or the other person's ability to commit, and it doesn't mean that I should recreate the narrative of that relationship to say it wouldn't have worked anyway.

It doesn't sound like you're quite saying that anyway (just suggesting that we feel relief to have reprieve from our ex's quirks).

I'm just seeing this, sarah, and I love it! I&...

2010-03-06T09:10:16.624-06:00

I'm just seeing this, sarah, and I love it! I'm going through a break up..the part about concentrating on which little things actually meant much more to us is very precious advice. Thanks. :)

huh! what great advice :) you totally rock and y...

2010-02-26T01:05:18.076-06:00

huh! what great advice :)

you totally rock and yes, it really does help to get all dressed up, even if you're just going to the grocery store. :)

thanks for writing and keep it up!

great advice. inspiring :)

2010-01-13T22:31:43.171-06:00

great advice. inspiring :)

I could realize your feeling, because I had the sa...

2009-12-30T00:44:44.270-06:00

I could realize your feeling, because I had the same experience several years ago. That's my first love and you're right, he was a part of my life, I was used to him to accompany me. Lost my love suddenly gave me infinite pain. But I really want to
struggle for my own happiness.

I think your advice is useful and helpful, thank you so much！And I like your blog, it's fun, interesting and useful, I'll see this blog periodically.

Thanks for your post. I've been looking for th...

2009-11-18T15:29:52.576-06:00

Thanks for your post. I've been looking for this kind of advice for days. You're right in many points. (Blush) I do still hang out with him, I do try to be more attractive than ever, I forget all the issues I had with him...
I've got two terrible break-ups, my first love and the one recently. The irony is he is 5 years younger than me, for many reasons we know our relationship leads to nowhere. I had almost wanted to dump him but when he ended it, I felt totally depressed.
I know, I know "this too shall pass" but it hurts a lot. He was a part of my life, we did many things together, he was always there for me. After the breakup, every morning I woke up feeling empty and miserable. And yes, I cried listening to that particular song. I couldn't eat much and I lost weight (positive side effect!).
All in all, I learnt to face it, accept the fact that my heart is broken, the truth is he's gone. We can do this and that, can dance and sing, but in the lonely nights, we cry. So just let it be.
I also agree with the idea not to immediately involve in another relationship. After my first breakup, I got lots of uncommitted relationships, one guy after another. It's enjoyable and hurt-free but doing so (sounds like classical novel) you can never taste true love.

Thank you so much for your doing your blog and doi...

2009-10-23T09:37:15.265-05:00

Thank you so much for your doing your blog and doing it well.

At times when we need a helping hand and a little advice (like now after a terrible disgusting breakup) we can seek a little refuge in knowing that you have gone through it, and see the comments full of other supporters and 'survivors'. : )

And when we need to; find new ideas for fun stuff to do, think about the future, make a plan, or laugh at you talking about convincing your cat into a sweater, you're still one of my go-to-girls.

So thanks

I'm just seeing this now, but it's a great...

2009-08-20T09:20:15.392-05:00

I'm just seeing this now, but it's a great post. I agree with all your steps, even though they can be very hard to take (and that's the challenge of a Very Bad Breakup). My own Very Bad Breakup was with my first boyfriend/first love. I ended up re-dating him, doing the whole "friends with benefits" thing (in hopes he'd come back to me, but of course made me all the more attached to a lost cause), and having a very unfair rebound relationship I wasn't ready for. In the long run, I wasn't really UNATTACHED until I got some space from him to really think. He went to Marine Corps bootcamp at the same time I left for my Freshman year of college. The space really cleared my head, and when a flirty friendship developed with a cute friend of my roommate's, I finally allowed myself to let go for real and take a chance on someone else. My roommate's flirty friend? Well, I've been dating him for almost two years now, and I'm so thankful I allowed myself to let go so I could be truly happy.

Another thing that helped? The day of my Very Bad Breakup coincided with the day a couple good friends and I were planning to see a movie. When I got there, my best girlfriend was waiting for me with Ben&Jerry's and a hug. I know you shouldn't eat ice cream ALL the time, but it really is a great band-aid.

My solution to any problem. Make a list. I recent...

2009-08-15T14:38:20.834-05:00

My solution to any problem. Make a list.

I recently broke up and moved out. Before moving out, I made a list of:

- What I like about my self?
- Why Im moving out?
- What are the things I could do after I moved out? Hobbies to pursue, books to read, places to travel....
- Friends I could call when Im feeling down & I informed these friends that they would be my support line.

I just stuck these on the fridge and the moment i feel a little depressed or getting low I rush to the fridge and randomly pick anything to do or a friend to call.

IT HAS REALLY HELPED!!!

Thanks for another great post! Im starting to get ...

2009-08-06T12:05:29.847-05:00

Thanks for another great post! Im starting to get addicted to this blog! :)
truly very helpful insights.

Excellent advice!

2009-08-04T18:06:16.435-05:00

Excellent advice!

This is really great advice, and your blog is amaz...

2009-08-04T06:48:56.190-05:00

This is really great advice, and your blog is amazing. Really.

I'm only 14, so I've never had breakup pro...

2009-08-04T05:44:41.777-05:00

I'm only 14, so I've never had breakup problems. I've never even been on a date!
But I can give this advice: Know that when you are single, you are spending this time making your self into a better girlfriend for when the perfect guy does come along.

I've never been through a break-up, but this i...

2009-08-04T03:24:16.788-05:00

I've never been through a break-up, but this is really well-written. Love your blog!

oh YES did i have a bad break up - about 5 years a...

2009-08-03T22:49:38.390-05:00

oh YES did i have a bad break up - about 5 years ago now - maybe longer and it still kinda sucks to see that douche bag walking around being popular! I handled it badly and I do regret it because he hasn't had the chance to see the awesome woman i've grown into from that snivelling girl he decided to leave for his best friends girlfriend.

but time did heal, i got over it, and i'm much stronger for it. a couple of years being single and having an awesome times provies that relationships are just one state of being not THE state of being

thanks for the awesome post :)

I had a horrible one 4 years ago (via note, NOTE I...

2009-08-03T20:56:03.516-05:00

I had a horrible one 4 years ago (via note, NOTE I say!!!) when a five year relationship broke up. It took me until this year to finally completely let go.

DON'T hold onto the pain because you are bitter. It is like eating poison and hoping the other person dies.

That's great advice! I've been through a l...

2009-08-03T20:19:59.810-05:00

That's great advice! I've been through a lot of nasty break ups--most of which were long-term. I agree that surrounding yourself with friends and family is the best thing you can do. They support you and love you, ever without your former counterpart.
Another piece of advice I would share is that if you had plans for events (like a vacation, to attend a concert, to go to a party, etc) with your ex, keep the plans, but bring a friend or two along. It will help you realize that you can do fun things even without your ex.

Thank you! Your blog is seriously awesome :D xxx

2009-08-03T16:49:19.086-05:00

Thank you! Your blog is seriously awesome :D xxx

Almost made me wish I wasn't in a relationship...

2009-08-03T15:24:38.561-05:00

Almost made me wish I wasn't in a relationship so as I could go out and do all that amazing stuff! ;)