Category: life advice

What are the hallmarks of your best self?

What does your Best Self look like? How do they treat other people? How do they treat YOU? Click through for 5 questions that will help you identify your best self!

It’s an overcast spring day and my friend and I are walking our dogs around Lake Nokomis. We’re drinking takeaway coffees and engaging in one of those it’s-been-too-long-tell-me-evvvvverything conversations. To be totally honest, I was busy fiddling with Loretta’s poop bags when I tuned back into the conversation and heard my friend say:

“… and those are the hallmarks of my Best Self. That’s how I knew I’d made the right decision.”

I (rudely) put my hand up and said, “Wait. Just a second. The hallmarks of your best self? Tell me more about this.”

Friends, I spend a lot of time thinking about this stuff. About what makes us happy. About how to communicate our needs. About how to chase our dreams without hating our lives.

And I’ve spent exactly zero minutes thinking about what my Best Self looks like.  These ‘hallmarks of your best self’ – how did my friend know what they were? How did she know which people, places, and experiences brought them out?

Not knowing what your Best Self looks like is like planning a trip without a destination. Click To Tweet
Of course, we can’t be our Best Selves all the time. Sometime I just really want to eat rubbish and read snarky celebrity gossip. If I’m virtuous and intentional and productive for too many days in a row I get sick of myself.

5 questions to help you identify your Best Self (so you can be your Best Self more often)

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Yes & Yes is taking a Summer Vacation!


Friends,

It’s already August and – as per the usual – I’m haunted by the belief that I haven’t “Summered correctly.” I haven’t gone swimming enough, taken enough roadtrips, and I’ve eaten nary a snow cone. FAIL.

So I’m taking the next two weeks off to:
a) live out a life time dream of visiting Prince Edward Island
b) get a bunch of business-y stuff set up behind the scenes

I’ll be sharing some of my favorite vintage Summer-y posts over the next 15 days so if you stop by there will still be fresh(ish) content here on the Yes & Yes homepage.

I’ll still be on Instagram and Facebook during this break, probably overwhelming you with photos of beaches and Tim Hortons, so follow at your own risk 😉

See you on the 16th and thanks for making Yes & Yes part of your online life!

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

How To Make Habit Change Stick – For Real This Time

You’re smart. You already know that good habits will get you closer to the life you want. 

And you’re totally aware of the bad habits that are pushing you further from your goals.

But you just can’t seem to make habit change stick. You drink smoothies every morning for a few days and then fall off the wagon. You resist Netflix binges for a few weeks, but then you have a bad day and you’re back at it.

You see other people who seem to have all figured out. You wonder what they know that you don’t. 

“How can she go running every morning? Doesn’t she ever want to sleep in?”

“He never seems tempted to order a third beer. Why not? Where does he get all that self-control?”

“Every day she unpacks some impressive salad she brought from home and I’m over here with my mediocre $10 deli sandwich. Why can’t I be like that?” 

Make It Stick Habit School is your bridge from knowing to doing. 

You already know what you should be doing. You just need your brain and body listen. This 6-step system and self-paced course will help you understand how to make habit change stick – for good.

  •  Your good habits feel effortless and almost second nature
  •  You’re finally free of those bad habits that have dogged you for years
  •  You’re not tempted or easily derailed; you don’t waste energy struggling with self-control
  •  If you do fall off the wagon, you treat yourself with compassion and grace; then you get back up and keep going

“This course helped me realize that working out/being active every day is key to my happiness: I feel better, eat better, and look better when I do. With Sarah’s humor, humility, and science-backed strategies, I haven’t missed a workout since I took the class. I know I’ll miss a day eventually, but Make It Stick has also prepared me to lessen the impact of that by planning alternate activities and, most importantly, going easy on myself.” – Bobby S. 

 

This course really forced me to be honest with myself about why I’m doing or not doing things. Now that I understand my own motivations and triggers, it’s so much easier to change my habits!” – Geraline M. 

 

 

What you’ll gain in this course:

  • A specific-to-you plan for changing your habits
  • An understanding of why your attempts at habit change have failed in the past
  • Science-backed strategies for avoiding temptation and reinforcing good habits
  • Methods you can apply over and over again, to any habit you want to make or break

After you sign up, you’ll immediately have access to:

    • 8 self-paced modules
    • 9 video lessons
    • 9 audio versions of that same lessons so you can listen at the gym or in your car
    • 17-page workbook

You will be taken to an order form. Once your purchase is complete, you’ll receive an email with your workbook and access to the whole course!


“This is the magic formula. I’ve been trying to build a regular fitness habit for a decade, but I wasn’t allowing myself room for any deviation whatsoever. Now I have a whole collection of mini ‘bookmark’ activities that I love to do, so that when I can’t get in a ‘real’ workout, I’m still moving my body every day and maintaining my habit.”  – Erin G.

 

Where was this information all my life?!! Habit School helped my discover why my new habits haven’t stuck in the past. The suggestions to focus on how I feel when I do the bad habit, and then what I want to feel is mind-shifting!”  – Amy C.

 

 

We’re more than halfway through 2017. I’d love to help you make the second half of this year better than the first! You can read more about Make It Stick Habit School here or click below to join us right now!

The Unpleasant Truth Behind Why We “Can’t” Break Bad Habits

Think you can't break bad habits? You totally can! But it started by being really honest with yourself about why you think you can't. Click through for 4 tips that will help with long-lasting habit change!

It’s an overcast Tuesday night and it’s happening again.

I’ve been horizontal for two hours now, slowing eating my way through a bag of pizza rolls. The sheet pan lies on the floor and my laptop sits on the coffee table, both within easy reach so I can alternate between eating cheesy pillows of goo and clicking through 90s music videos on Youtube.

Pizza roll. No Diggity. Pizza roll. The Boy Is Mine. Pizza Roll. Karma Police.

This isn’t the first time I’ve done this. For a 1.5 year window, this pizza roll + music video binge became, well, a habit. Whenever the stars aligned (the weather was bad, Kenny was gone, and I’d worked too hard) I’d find myself on the couch. Somehow, there would be pizza rolls in my mouth and *NSYNC in my ear.

Did you notice how I phrased that paragraph? As though I was powerless? As though this bad habit ‘happened’ to me and I didn’t have any control over it or myself?  AS THOUGH A BAG OF PIZZA ROLLS IS SMARTER THAN ME?

Friends, it’s time to have a brutally honest conversation about bad habits and why we “can’t” break them.

Demoralizing but true: We engage in bad habits because - on some level - they benefit us. Click To Tweet

The Unpleasant Truth Behind Why We “Can’t” Break Bad Habits

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You can’t stop me from caring, Mr. Trump.

Want to reduce your carbon footprint? You don't have to live in burlap and only eat quinoa. Click through for doable steps!
Welp, it happened. Donald Trump has withdrawn the U.S. from the Paris Climate Accord, the agreement that 195 countries signed to slow climate change. NORTH KOREA SIGNED IT FOR PETE’S SAKE.

But here’s the ‘good’ news: Donald Trump cannot prevent any of us from caring about climate change. Click To Tweet He cannot prevent any of us from spending our money, time, or energy to reduce our own carbon footprints.

This country (and planet) is made up of individuals. Many of our individual choices got us here and our individual choices can make a difference now, too.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from recycling or composting.

We’re signed up for Hennepin County’s organics recycling program and we loooove it. In case you were wondering, it’s not gross and nothing smells. If your city doesn’t offer composting, this countertop compost bin is cute, costs $22 and has 5,000+ five star reviews.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from reusing things and using fewer disposable items.

We have these coffee travel mugs and love them.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from driving hybrid cars, taking public transport, or riding our bikes.

NiceRide, Minneapolis’s bike sharing program costs $75 a year.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from eating less meat.

Afro-Vegan and The Chubby Vegetarian are great places to start!

Donald Trump can’t stop us from buying carbon offsets.

You can buy them through places like CarbonfundCool Effect or TerraPass.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from buying more things secondhand.

If you’re not up for pawing through piles at thrift store, start at Buffalo Exchange or thredUP.

Donald Trump can’t stop us from using LED lightbulbs, adjusting our thermostats, or signing up for wind or solar power.

We use SunShare and love it! And it’s cheaper!

Donald Trump can’t stop us from buying local produce.

The Hmong Farmers’ Market in St. Paul is wonderful! Or join a CSA! We’re signed up for Abraham’s Table and I’m nerdily excited about our first box.

Donald Trump can’t stop us voting with our dollars and supporting companies who favor ethical, environmentally-friendly policies.

Here’s a list of the world’s most sustainable companies, as of 2017. Johnson & Johnson, L’Oreal, Adidas, Colgate/Palmolive, and General Mills made the cut.

When it comes right down to it, Donald Trump can’t stop us. Period.

How To Make Any Unpleasant Situation Suck Less

How do you make unpleasant situations suck less? Is it just about having a positive attitude? Can you lifehack your way out of it? Click through and find out!

It’s only 6 am and I already hate everything.

I’ve been awake for three hours and I’ve already tangled with my Lyft driver and spent $9 ill-advised dollars on airport donuts. I’ve battled for the armrest and been called ‘honey’ by the guy sitting next to me. I’ve questioned the wisdom of wearing skinny jeans on a six-hour flight. I’ve moved ‘air travel’ into the Unpleasant Situation column in my mental spreadsheet.

Do you have an Unpleasant Situation column in your mental spreadsheet? Or a Things I Dread box? Maybe you have an Experiences I Hate But Can’t Avoid list.

Dude, me too. But what if it didn’t have to be like that? What if we could make unpleasant situations – any unpleasant situation – suck less?

We can!

The good news: we can use the same six steps to make any shitty situation less awful. Long flights, the busy season at work, houseguests you didn’t invite and don’t enjoy – the same six steps apply to all of the above.

The bad news: even if we execute each of these steps perfectly, I’m not sure we can turn an Unpleasant Situation into a Perfectly Enjoyable Situation. Going to your partner’s family reunion in the middle of nowhere is never going to be the same as heading to Italy for two weeks. Painting the exterior of your house at the height of summer is never going to feel like a day at the spa.

But! With some forethought and a slightly better mindset we can make unpleasant situations suck less.

6 ways to make unpleasant situations suck less

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