I didn’t think many people would relate to my less-than-Pinterest-worthy self-care practices of leaving parties early and avoiding amusement parks.
So without further ado, here are five sound-like-they’re-a-little-snarky-but-are-actually-really-helpful self-care, self-love practices.
1. Cull bad people from your life
It doesn’t sound particularly loving or good-natured to tell you that you should delete your former roommate’s number or only see That One Girl in 20-minute intervals.
But I bet you knew E-X-A-C-T-L-Y who I was talking about when you read that heading: the friend who’s overly concerned about everyone’s weight and income, the friend who complains constantly but never makes any steps towards changing anything, the friend who always needs a ride/an extra $20/a shoulder to cry on … but never, ever returns the favor.
You get to choose who you let into your life and we’re the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Show yourself some love by choosing carefully.
2. Do things you love – even if other people don’t quite get it
A few of my friends have (very fulfilling to them) non-traditional sex lives. If something makes you feel happy, fulfilled, joyful – and you’re not hurting anyone – you owe it to yourself to pursue it. Maybe your mom doesn’t understand why The Triple Rock is your version of church, but she’s not the one living your life, is she?
3. Know your limits and respect them
I spent years trying to buck these deeply uncool traits before I realized that’s this is just who I am and no matter how many times I try to like Grand Old Days or body shots it’s just not going to happen.We’ve all got social, physical, psychological, emotional limits and (usually) they don’t offer us much wiggle room. I think a big part of self-care is making peace with those limits and loving yourself enough to honor them.
4. Learn to say no
a) a very good looking and untrustworthy human who wants to sleep with you (and lots of other people) when you’re in the market for a serious relationship
b) a super fun house party the night before your career-making presentation
c) an amazing pair of boots that are on sale – but still cost as much as your rent – and you’re incredibly broke
As unsexy and terribly grownup as it sounds, you need to love yourself enough to occasionally make unfun choices because they’ll serve you better in the long run.
5. Establish boundaries
Are there any not-particularly-positive-sounding ways that you take care of yourself? Share them in the comments – I’m sure we’d all benefit!