This guest post comes to us via Vanessa, a fashion and lifestyle blogger from Australia. She writes about all manner of things, including fashion, beauty, geekery and self-care over at her blog Nessbow. She's also into cult films, costume parties, thrifting and kitty hugs. You can also catch her on twitter or visit my etsy store.
Lately I’ve felt glum and frustrated. It’s as though the daily grind is wearing down my resolve and leaving me exhausted. Janis Joplin called this feeling the “Kozmic Blues.” We’re all touched by the blues every now and then, but there are lots of ways to break out of this slump.
Lower your expectations
Many of us focus deeply on what we feel we ‘should’ be doing. We expect that our days should be filled with productive tasks. We believe that we should be perpetually gorgeous, with perfect relationships and successful careers. In reality though, it’s incredibly difficult to accomplish all these things at once. You’re going to have evenings when you opt for take away and telly over a healthy meal and work. And that’s O.K. Lower your expectations to a more realistic level, and feel the tension shift.
Change the way you talk to yourself
It’s hard to feel good about yourself when your inner voice is talking trash. Carefully consider the way you speak to yourself. Pepper your self-talk with words of encouragement. Speak to yourself the way you’d talk to your closest friend.
Make a ta-da list
A major symptom of the blues is feeling overwhelmed by a never- ending to-do list. When you always have a list of tasks you’re yet to accomplish, it can seem like you’re not getting anywhere. I combat this by making a ta-da list: a list of what you’ve accomplished that day. This will illustrate how much progress you’re actually making.
Disregard other people’s expectations
Often, focussing on what people expect of us can generate anxiety. We can begin to feel crushed under the weight of expectation. It’s important to disentangle yourself from these pressures. In your life, the only person you have to answer to is you. So, next time you feel caught up in what another person thinks of you, ask yourself how you feel about the situation. Always remember that in your life, your needs are paramount, and you are the person who best knows how to meet those needs.
When we have so many responsibilities, it can begin to feel like we’re losing touch with ourselves. Make the time each day to do something especially for you. It could be wearing a piece of jewellery that makes you feel incredible or taking a wonderful book to read during your lunch hour. Whatever it is, carve out a bit of time each day to do something that makes you feel like ‘you’.
The best things in life take time to develop. When you’re feeling down though, you might just wish these things would hurry up and get here already! Be patient, and remind yourself that things that happen over time tend to last longer than instantaneous changes. Reassure yourself that each day brings you closer to that coveted dream.
Do you have any tips for overcoming the blues?
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