On May 15th, I’m launching The Post College Survival Kit, a guide to growing up without effing up. You can see the course outline here or even download a sweet 14-page free ebook here. And if you sign up for my newsletter, you can get the course earlier and cheaper than everybody else!I’ve graduated from three schools – Aitkin High School, The University of Minnesota – Morris, and The University of Victoria, Wellington. Each time I expected to be overwhelmed with emotion. Each time I spent the majority of the ceremony staring into the middle distance and wonder how I would fit my worldly belongings into five boxes.
Maybe I would have felt differently if I would have been listening to commencement speeches like these.
There are few things more liberating in this life than having your
worst fear realized. … Your path at 22 will not necessarily be your
path at 32 or 42. One’s dream is constantly evolving, rising and
falling, changing course.
After I graduated from here, I moved down to Chicago and did improv. Now, there are very few rules to improvisation, but one of the things I was taught early on is that you are not the most important person in the scene. Everybody else is. And if they are the most important person in the scene, you will naturally pay attention to them and serve them. But the good news is, you’re in the scene, too. So hopefully to them, you’re the most important person and they will serve you. No one is leading, you’re all following the follower, serving the servant. You cannot win at improv.
And life is improvisation. You can no idea what’s going to happen next and you are mostly just making things up as you go along.
Really when I look back at it I wouldn’t change a thing. I mean it was so important to me to lose everything because I found out what the most important thing is – To be true to yourself. Ultimately that’s what’s gotten me to this place. I don’t live in fear, I’m free, I have no secrets, I know I’ll always be okay because no matter what, I know who I am
Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you, spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life. No one is here today because they did it on their own. Okay, maybe Josh, but he’s just a straight up weirdo. You’re all here today because someone gave you strength. Helped you. Held you in the palm of their hand. God, Allah, Buddha, Gaga.
How did/do you feel about graduation?
I believe that everyone and everything is interesting. Also: there are few things that cat videos + cheese can’t cure. You too? Let’s dance!
Each year on my birthday, I make a list of new things I want to try. Then I try them.
1. Take an adult ballet class
2. Go to a nudist beach or resort
3. Go carless for one week
4. Drive a jet ski
5. Go storm chasing
6. Take an overnight bike trip
7. Take a sailing class
8. Stay overnight on a houseboat
9. Make kombucha from scratch
10. Watch The Sandlot
11. Read East of Eden
12. Visit the Wabasha Street Caves
13. Harvest some wild mushrooms
14. Make (or attempt) a pavlova
15. Go to a trampoline park
16. Try paddleboarding
17. Take a burlesque class
18. Attempt contouring makeup
19. Let someone do energy work on me
20. Take a curling lesson
21. Go Geocaching
22. Attempt to play Dungeons & Dragons
23. Bird watch
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