If you have been reading Yes and Yes for more than a week, you've probably seen me reference The BFF in, oh, every third post. Darcie is the graphic designer behind each Yes and Yes product, she's my one-person market research group and she's the person who has been picking me up at the Minneapolis/St. Paul airport for the last ten years.
I've known Darc since fifth grade when we met in The Smart Kids' Class - a fact that I constantly share with people and she constantly downplays. We spent our adolescence wearing army pants with baby tees, cutting ourselves tiny bangs and listening to overwrought music. When she was 16, she left our tiny hometown for an artsy charter school and I was left to my own devices (aka musical theater and charming boys who played guitars.)
For the majority of our adulthoods we've lived in different cities and even different countries. This last year, we've both been in St. Paul and spend an inordinate amount of time together thrifting, eating Vietnamese food, getting really cheap manicures, making bonfires and going to overloud shows at The Triple Rock.Also, talking about cats.
When we go places, I'm pretty sure strangers think we're a couple.
Through college and grad school and all my travels I've been lucky enough to amass a harem of amazing lady friends. They're some of the smartest, funniest, most creative and driven people on the planet - and they want to drink coffee and go to crappy matinees with little ol' me! But isn't there something fantastic about old friends? The one who knew you when you had a triangle perm and insisted on wearing red satin pajama pants to school? Who know what you're talking about when you reference Roadside's spicy diced potatoes and Mr. Forsberg's polar bear sweater? Friends are the family you choose for yourself.Tell me about you! Do you have a best friend? How did you meet? How long have you known each other?
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My bf I met in my jr. yr. in h.s. She moved to Cali from Richmond, WV with her mom and sister.. Somehow we just started talking... Her dream was to go to Julliard and become an opera singer... Denise could sing! wow... After h.s. we went our separate ways but still kept in touch... After all these years, we have shared our ups and downs... I am hoping this Xmas she will find her way to Cali... she has a sister out here so that will be a good excuse for her to have... (jk)....She's always had my back and I, hers...(btw we graduated in '72, so there are definitely a lot of years here!)
I love my high school friends.
I'm still friends with my bffs from middle school. But my best friend was my roommate in college. 12 years of inseperable friendship!
My BFF and I have known each other since we were 8. That's um, a really long time now. She lives in Johannesburg, South Africa. I live in Melbourne, Australia. She is married with two kids, I am divorced and fancy-free. And we email or text most days.
I love her like a sister!
I wrote about old friends just the other day on my blog, so this post really resonates for me!
Except I was kind of whingeing that they aren't here, with me, in the flesh.
Sigh.
I met my best friend because another friend bought him to my place to visit. I'd just made a carrot cake and he ate the WHOLE LOT. That was nearly 20 years ago and we still joke about it.
This is so cute! I am completely with you; through college I've acquired a huge amount a different friends but my go-to is still my friend, Rachel, who I met Freshman year of high school.
I met my bff in '98. I came home for a college break to work at Burger King (again) and she was the new manager. Another manager (he was skeevey) kept asking her to go to an amusement park and she didn't want to...finally I offered to go too for protection. We were best friends ever since.
In '00 she moved to the Carolinas and I followed in '01. We were roomates for 7 years, then I moved to Alaska. When I came back to Charlotte I moved across the street from her!!
I totally get the "people think we are a couple" thing. At every restaurant: "Will that be one check today???"
"When we go places, I'm pretty sure strangers think we're a couple."
Can't tell you how many times that's happened to me. When me and my BFF were taking the trip of our childhood anime dreams to Japan, the first question people would always ask us was, "Are you students?"
When we said no, without a blink, they would follow up with "Oh, are you lesbian?" We even got Mr. & Mrs. forms at a place we stayed in!
I've known her since 6th grade. What a blessing to still have her in my life!
I met all my best friends in college (being a military kid, it was hard to make lasting friendships before then because everyone kept moving). I stole a hotdog for one of them, moved another into her dorm room, and met the third in choir. And now we're all dear, dear friends and even though we live in 3 countries on 2 continents, we're still close. In fact, they're the 3 lovely ladies who run my blog with me!
So, I began a roadtrip a month ago with a bff from high school. We ended up visiting a fellow bff (all of us together since 7th grade) and staying with her all summer in Ohio! Living with my besties now that we are all "adults" (*ahem...) is the most fun imaginable!
Oh my gosh, yes. My bestest, longest friend and I have known each other since first grade. We've traveled together, lived together, stayed up late together countless nights, talking about everything and nothing. I wouldn't trade that experience for the world. (But I love meeting new friends, too! Hint!)
I met my best friend in 1st grade, too! Even when I moved away in 8th grade, we kept in touch by hanging out on the weekends. We haven't spent much time together since moving farther away for college and real life, but she was my maid of honor and we keep up on Facebook as much as possible. I am so glad to have a lifelong best friend who I can always talk to, no matter what!
My BFF Jilly and I have been buds for 23 years, and never lived more than 20 minutes apart until I moved to Chicago in 2008. I miss her, but we talk everyday.
I met my BFF in college- there's no one in the world who "gets" me as much as her! we don't talk everyday or even every week, but I always know that she is there to watch out for me... you said it- friends are family we chose for ourselves!
choose.
I met my BFF Aisling on the first day of secondary school. She was pretty blunt - "I don't know anyone, can I hang out with you?" So was I - "I've already made a friend but I'll ask her if you can hang out too." Nearly nine years later, the other girl is totally out of the picture of our lives (we severed with her early on because she has an issue with compulsive lying and also meanness). Ais and I, however, remain bosom buddies despite (or perhaps because of) differing tastes in music, different ambitions and different political affiliations. What we have in common is a love of debate, female Disney characters, each other and tea. Funnily enough, our boyfriends are also close friends even though we met them under different circumstances.
I met my best friend in 3rd grade, when we were eight! We live in different cities now, but we're constantly facebooking and texting and supporting each other from a hundred miles away :)
I've had a group of friends since I was 10, and one of them has been my BFF since I was 7. I love my new friends but I am definitely partial to those friends who can bust out old birthday party photos on command.
I have two best friends, one of whom I've known since kindergarten, and the other since 4th grade. We call ourselves "The Trinity." I live on the West Coast, one lives in the Midwest and the other lives on the East Coast, but we are still so close. Sarah, the one I've known since kindergarten, is getting married this November, and the night before her wedding day the three of us are going to sleep in the same bed and look at old pictures and videos. Even thinking about this makes me cry with happiness. Without these girls I would be so much less.
I have 7 best friends. 1 boy, and 6 girls. Really. Each are just as special to me than the rest, and each are more special to me than anyone. Each are from a different time in my life, but once you are truly a bestie, you are ALWAYS a bestie.
Have you read Leonard Cohen's poem Do Not Forget Old Friends?
http://theveryyoungatheart.blogspot.com/2010/06/do-not-forget-old-friends.html
We met playing fairies in the fairy chorus for a G&S show in Cambridge, MA. 3 years later she and I got married! Who knew?
This is a great post, yet it makes me a bit blue. I've had 'best friends' a few times and it's always turned out that a few (or sosmetimes many) years after the beginning of the friendship, things get ugly. I also have great friends whom I haven't seen in years because they all live overseas now. I remember the good times with tears in my eyes because they were SO perfect and lovely but I also cannot help but realize that I've never really had a BFF. I do hope that I find her/him because friendship is one of life's most precious things. Those of you privileged with a BFF, take good care of him/her! They're hard to find, believe me.
I love me friends, but I can honestly say I don't think i have a "best friend" per se.
I loved this part. It's all so true. Especially the red satin pajama pant bit.
My best friend and I have been friends since freshman year of high school. We're only mid-way through undergrad now, but as we are moving in with each other in New York this fall, I can feel that we're going to be best friends for years just like you and your BFF.
I met my best friend when I was two. She moved on to my block and waddled over while my mom was reading me a story, repeated every word to the story, and boom. Best Friends for Life.
I met my best friend when I was two. She moved on to my block and waddled over while my mom was reading me a story, repeated every word to the story, and boom. Best Friends for Life.
I love old friends. I have several girlfriends I met when we were 5. We are scattered all over our state but we all have managed to keep in touch (yay Facebook!). I consider those girls family. No matter how much time has gone by since we've seen each other we pick up right where we left off.
I met one of my best friends at a hockey game. I met my other best friend when he dated a friend of mine. She is no longer my friend but he is my absolute best friend in the world.
I've known my two best friends since we were 3.. I'm an only child, but they're my two sisters in the closest sense of the word, they know everything about me, the good and the bad, and we can go for long periods of time without talking but still know that we've got each others backs. We're all in different parts of the world now (the US, Italy, and I've settled in Australia!), but we keep up via skype and e-mail and love each other to death. Sure, it's not like sex and the city, but I think we'll be just fine anyway :D
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