With some regularity, readers ask me if I am, in fact, part robot. How can I work full time, update this blog on the daily, plan a world tour and maintain some semblance of a social life?
There are two answers to this question, friends:
1) I'm a German/Virgo/eldest child. It's like a perfect storm of perfectionism and over-productivity. (See also: part robot)
2) I'm single.
Rather, I have a Gentleman Caller that I see once or twice a week. We walk his dog, make dinner, watch hulu, canoodle. The rest of the week? I meet friends for drinks, work my plot at the community garden and attempt to juggle my many, many projects. And I had the realization last week that Yes and Yes's growth has been directly proportional to the amount of time I have to myself.
This is not to say that my ex-boyfriend was unsupportive of Yes and Yes - he was very supportive. But just like most things I do, I want to be The Best at relationships and I want to give them the time and the attention they deserve. And I felt that my relationship deserved more attention than my blog. Now, for the first time in a looooooong time, I'm not living with a partner. I don't spend my weekends attending a pseudo-sister-in-law's baby shower or going to a bbq with his ultimate frisbee team. I'm not splitting holidays between two families or going to dinner at his boss's place. Every moment that I'm not teaching? It's up to me how to spend that time.
Of course, the life of the unattached lady is not all pink drinks and expensive shoes. I have much less discretionary income now that I'm not splitting bills with anyone. The only one who listens to me complain about my day is Putin, my cat. I have to deal with the mechanic/landlord/lecherous repairman on my own. Snuggling is limited.
But life is nothing so much as a series of compromises, right? It's merely a matter of which compromises fit this particular time in your life. In the past, I've traded some of my free time and a bit of my independence for stability, companionship and love. Currently, I'm giving up some expendable income and emotional support in exchange for the freedom to spend my time exactly, precisely how I want to. And for the moment, that suits me juuuust fine.
I want to know about you! Are you single? Married? Do you have kids? How do these things effect your creative life and your goals? Which do you prefer? Would you change your situation given the chance?