photo...or while comparing yourself to others.
I often get a bit hung up on the path that my life has taken, what with the non-traditional adulthood and all. I worry that somewhere between all the traveling and adventures and cheese-eating, my career and grown-up life have gotten lost. Where's my IRA? Where's my Toyota sedan? Where is my impressive resume?
But I'm not lost. I'm right here!
And right here is a pretty good place.
Do you ever wonder when this adulthood bit is going to kick in for real? When someone is going to hand you the map into the land of grown-ups, where everybody knows how to change a tire and refinance a house?
I often get a bit hung up on the path that my life has taken, what with the non-traditional adulthood and all. I worry that somewhere between all the traveling and adventures and cheese-eating, my career and grown-up life have gotten lost. Where's my IRA? Where's my Toyota sedan? Where is my impressive resume?
But I'm not lost. I'm right here!
And right here is a pretty good place.
Do you ever wonder when this adulthood bit is going to kick in for real? When someone is going to hand you the map into the land of grown-ups, where everybody knows how to change a tire and refinance a house?
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I prefer to be happy in my own little world than a bad tempered adult. i have tried so many times to get my life as a normal 21 years old should. A normal degree with a normal job with a normal family ( im married, bye to normal in my sentimental life) But I just can't. I want to travel and to actually say I lived, no I dont have money or tons of experience, I dont like math or sciences, but I know more because i taveled because i looked more than a turist because I care about details and beautiful things!... the day i accept this is who I am I will be happy !
Its better to be yourself!
I think of being an adult means taking care of yourself & being capable to do-- getting your bills paid on time, making sure you & your family are taken care of (as in I make sure my cat has food & a clean littler box).
Beyond that, who cares what you do & how you do it? I love to watch cartoons, talk in silly voices, get in tickle fights, and have pink hair. If that doesn't make me "an adult," then I don't want to be one.
If we had someone like Kinsey study what makes adults "adults," I bet we'd find that none really exist...
The minute someone hands me a map to grown-up land, I'm gonna chuck it back in their face. The only people handing out these maps are the people so miserable with their lives that they wanna bring everyone else down with them, mainly so they can have someone to carpool to work with in their Toyota sedan.
I do wonder that sometimes, and in a lot of ways, I feel like that's how I live now. Corporate job, apartment and bill paying. But at the same time, I have bright raspberry hair, visible tattoos, and spend time hula hooping on my porch, so it balances out. I should know in a week or two if my new escape plan has officially been hatched. I'm excited to find out.
I keep waiting for someone to tell me I can't POSSIBLY have a house and a car and a husband ... I'm twelve, for the love of gravy.
Hasn't happened yet, tho.
Oh, thank you for this...I love this post awfully much.
That sign put a big, huge smile on my face. Great post. I sometimes worry that I'm falling behind, being 20, dreaming of making a career from my writing, and not yet having nearly enough great and wonderful credentials to prove my worth to the real world. I felt happy that I'm not the only person who is worried they aren't adult enough yet. And you know what? Most of the time I'm fine with it.
I'm 23, didn't go to uni, hate my job, don't own a house, can't even imagine being able to afford one. Don't want kids (not now, maybe not ever), can't drive yet.
I feel like an adult purely because I'm in control over my life whether it looks like it or not. I get to eat chocolate for breakfast and the only one stopping me is me (and sometimes my partner).
I don't want a typical life, but sometimes I wish I had the answers!
I'm actually more worried that my life won't involve enough adventure, and I'll be stuck with a "normal" adult life...
I love knowing other people are shunning the normal/boring path too!
while i've got a mortgage, a husband, an almost sedan, a career-type job, a retirement fund, a decent resume...i still have zero answers and i don't feel all that 'traditional.'
life is what you make it, and i try to make mine fun, comfortable and full of things i love.
sar, your life is full of things you love. you're doing it all right! :)
I posted awhile back about wanderlust--well, my boyfriend and I are preparing to return to Korea for another year of teaching and couldn't be more excited! Somehow, great memories and adventure are a greater lure than paying high bills and doing things the "predictable" adult way. :) Thanks for the inspiration!
Anon!
Yay! I´m so excited for you! You are going to have such an amazing time. I´m glad you made the right choice for yourself!
I am 24, married, paying the bills and living approximately 5,000 miles away from my parents...That being said, I don't think you really become a grown up until you have kids...which is why I am terrified at the thought of being somebody's Mom.
Who gets to determine what means being an adult? You sound like you're experiencing amazing things!
I took a longer path than most to a 'career' (change of direction, consequent grad school) and always think about the people who were in their 40's and told me they wished they had done something similar. Now is the time to explore!
I have no desire to go to Grown Up Land!
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